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The One Argument Against Tipping That Actually Makes Sense (VIDEO)

Posted by Adriana Velez

waitressWhen it comes to tipping, there's the decent people who do it, and the jerks who don't. Right? I mean, we all have our own reasons for tipping at restaurants, but they all pretty much amount to the same thing: It's the "right" thing to do. But what if it's not? What if it turns out that tipping is (gulp!) unfair?!?

A former restaurant owner says we need to totally rethink tipping. Bruce McAdams has done just about every job you can do at a restaurant: He's cooked, waited tables, bussed, managed, and owned them. And after years of experience, he's concluded that tipping is just plain unfair. And you know what? His argument makes sense.

If you have time, McAdams' whole TEDx Talk is thought-provoking. But one of the main points he makes is that tipping is unfair to the cooks and everyone else working at a restaurant besides the servers. When you factor in tips, servers make WAY more than cooks do. And a lot of those cooks spend years and tens of thousands of dollars at cooking school. They work just as hard. But they make peanuts compared to the waiters.

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So what -- should we be tipping the cooks, too? McAdams doesn't really offer solutions for solving this. But he does mention that some restaurants actually collect the tips and divide them evenly among the entire restaurant staff. So there's an idea! Would you tip differently if you knew your tips would be shared with the dishwasher?

Eh, probably not. Here's the other thing McAdams says -- study after study proves that except in extreme cases, we don't tip based on performance, anyway. Most of us tip based on whatever we usually tip.

So what's the point?!? What if we said "no more tipping!" and just raised everyone's restaurant bill by 15 to 20 percent? Then the owner could decide where all the money goes, hopefully fairly -- ugh, if only restaurant profit margins weren't so teeny. But that's probably never going to happen. Still, I will ponder this the next time I eat out ... just before I sign my name under that same tip I give every damn time no matter what the service was like.

Do you tip? If you do, do you tip based on service or percentage of bill?
Do you think tipping is unfair to the rest of the restaurant staff?

by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 11:11 AM
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MistressMinerva
by Jennifer on Jan. 8, 2013 at 5:41 PM

We tip all the time.

Aishamusty
by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 5:49 PM

I do and I don't think it's unfair to anyone 

burgandymonroe
by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 7:00 PM

Me and my whole immediate family tip. This is because before I was a sahm I was a server for 8yrs, also my daughters dad who is the provider for our home is a server and a bartender. Because we both have been in the industry for years we and our families understand a factor that the gentleman that feels tiping your server is unfair to the rest of the staff is neglecting to realize or mention, that is because serving is a tip job employers don't  have to and do not pay us even minimum wage, we get between $2.50 and $2.75 (tip wage) per hour. On the other hand cooks and all none tip employees get minimum wage and up, Actually at both of the well know country wide chain resturants we worked at the cooks for example make atleast $10dollars and up per hour. 

anonomyssy
by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 9:50 PM
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How can you not tip?  Tipping is customary.  A server earns about $2.35 an hour...the only way they earn anything is through tipping.  Whether you agree to the practice or not, it's the way it is.  Don't go out and expect someone to attend to your every need, and then stiff them...cruel.   If you don't, you might not want to eat there again...be kind to those who handle your food.

wifeynmommie80
by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 9:52 PM

Some waitresses actually make below min. wage so they rely on tipping.

cklamour
by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 9:53 PM
No matter where I go, I tip:Starbucks, nail salon, restaurant, or bar.
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cklamour
by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 9:54 PM
Some make as little as 2.50 and hour. What is that???

Quoting wifeynmommie80:

Some waitresses actually make below min. wage so they rely on tipping.

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wifeynmommie80
by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 10:03 PM

Yep when I was in college I worked for a small restraunt in town and made about that, and I completly relied on the tip.

Quoting cklamour:

Some make as little as 2.50 and hour. What is that???

Quoting wifeynmommie80:

Some waitresses actually make below min. wage so they rely on tipping.


cklamour
by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 10:06 PM
This is what some customers don't know. I was one until I worked at an outpatient mental clinic and we charged on a sliding scale. One of the clients worked for Red Robin and told me how much she made...I was floored! I would've never guessed in a hundred years our servers were paid so little.

Quoting wifeynmommie80:

Yep when I was in college I worked for a small restraunt in town and made about that, and I completly relied on the tip.

Quoting cklamour:

Some make as little as 2.50 and hour. What is that???



Quoting wifeynmommie80:

Some waitresses actually make below min. wage so they rely on tipping.


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OliviasMommy611
by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 10:07 PM
I always tip
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