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She has to turn everything around to make it look like she is the one being hurt. No one ever gets hurt but her. 
We are having some family drama with my cousins. This drama started a year and half ago. My cousin Karen got mad over something my sister put on facebook and got mad over a something I put on about the pitty train. My cousin Karen sent me a letter in my email. Saying some really hurtful things. She told me that she wished my mom or dad would die so my brother sister and I could see how it feels to lose a parent. We just lost my aunt that year. There was alot more said in the email. Well I was upset and balling my eyes over this when my mom called to tell me that they was going to send my dad out to another hospital. She asked what was wrong I tried my best to keep it from her cause I knew what would happen. When I finally told her. She was mad. Then she wanted to read the email. So I printed it off and gave it to her. She read it and started saying that they email was sent to her and it was to her. She  has done this before turning things around. 
This is all she would talk to about to anyone about how hurt she was in the email. She didnt have any right to email her saying this stuff. We finally had the drama to stop and my mom decides to write a letter to my cousin. The whole letter was about how hurt she was. How she didnt deserve what was said in that letter. SHe loved her and she would do anything for her. My mom just thought she would write this letter and noting would be said well she got fooled. My cousin Karen and her sister Elizabeth send her letters back. She can now say that she did get hurt. They said some really hateful hurtful and nasty things in that letter.
I just can not understand why my mom has to turn things around and make it look like she is the one getting hurt all the time when its not her.  

by on Jan. 20, 2013 at 4:16 PM
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Janet
by Ruby Member on Jan. 21, 2013 at 1:57 PM

 

Quoting goddess99:

Hope everyone grows up and things work out.

 

DixieFlower
by on Jan. 21, 2013 at 3:10 PM

Well while the email wasn't addressed to her it did have your cousin wishing her and her husband dead. So I can see how she could be hurt by that. I also feel that if anyone was to send a nasty email to either of my sons it would hurt me as well especially if it was family.

TinkerBell2013
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 7:21 PM

I didnt mean that my mom dont have a right to be upset or hurt over the email. All that I was saying was that she shouldnt act like that it was all about her.   If I was in her shoes I would be hurt and upset too over that comment about me and my husband be dead. But what I was trying to get it was that she should understand that it has hurt me and my sister as well. But my mom dont get that. 
 

TinkerBell2013
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 7:36 PM

You have not hurt my feeling in any way. I understand what you are saying. I do love my mother and would do anything for her. All that I was trying to say that she was acting like it wasnt suppose to hurt me or my sister. My mom got cancer in 2003 when I was 6 months pregnant with my oldest son and that was the hardest for me. I talk to my mom everyday. There might have been a few times that I have not gotten to talk to her. Yes she does get on my nerves and we both say things that we regret later on and we say we are sorry. It is just that I think my mom should consider that it has hurt me as well. Thank You for your comment. 
Thanks to all the ladies for there comments. I dont have anyone here to talk to but my mom and a few in laws and the in laws act like they dont want to hear what I have to say. Thanks for listen  

Quoting jlabadens:

Tinkerbell 2012- im sorry youre, having issues w/your mom...but I have such a hard, time feeling bad,for your stuation. A few yrs ago I complained about the same petty bullshit...I avoided my moms phone calls...I copped an attitude,when she pissed me off...I was down right rude when she said something I thought was wrong...on October 10th 2009 I answered a phone call from my mom telling me, she had CANCER...Nov 12th 2009 I received a phone call from my dad...saying my mom had died from the cancer :'(, my mom over petty nonsense...my mom was my best friend! :( i.wasted sooo much time being a,brat over bullshit that doesnt even matter...I regret it every single day!!! Is,it REALLY WORTH IT to be upset w/your mom right now? If you lost her tomorrow would you be happy w/your last conversation w/her EVER??!! Think about that! :( Cuz tomorrow isn't promised... Im sorry if my reply upsets you...but im just being real with you & speaking from harsh experience....


elliem87
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 8:02 PM
I'm sorry. I understand where you are coming from, my mom is crazy too
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