Any other new moms with first child without family support? I am 41 years of age with our first child and all of a sudden my Husband and I don't hear from our families.
i had plenty of help with my first daughter when i needed it. 4 yrs later and everyone sucks. Before and after when the baby is born, they all tell you that they are gonna come around alot or they will help you when ever you need it. And right when you get the guts up to ask..no one is available every single time. Grrrrrr. My youngest is 4 mos and i can count on both my hands how many times my mom has been around. She is always not feeling well or is too tired or isnt at home
Thank you for writing. Sorry to hear your not getting much help either, especially with a newborn. Its very disappointing. I have 2 sisters and 2 sister in laws. Just the inlaws have kids, which are grown. We have all been very close. The only thing we can come up with is selfishness. My Husband and I have done so much for everyone over 23 years, thought i would have a couple of hours a week from them once in awhile. Just to clean a little or go to a dentist appt or whatever. My Husband is great but works every weekday. My mom has passed and my mother in law is having foot problems. I am so distracted and in a bad mood about this now for 15 months. I wish i could leave it behind.
I didnt have much help with my first son. We found out that my mom had cancer when i was 6 months pregnant and the drs told her while she was on the chemo she couldnt be around that baby. My in laws didnt want to help but they didnt care one bit to tell me I was doing this or that wrong. I am sorry you dont have any help. Hope they will come around and see that you do need them to help you out.
My situation is slightly different, all our friends disappeared after our baby was born. My mom is pretty good but my in laws all promised all sorts of things and have all conveninetly forgotten. Also my mother in law ignores whatever I tell her and does whatever she wants with my son.
People are so inconsiderate! What would you have done?
- Mimee1971
on Jan. 22, 2013 at 5:38 PM