I'm so sick of my 7 yr old son lying to me. What to do??
My son, Alex, is my oldest so this is all new to me. Honestly, I didn't think that 7 year olds lie.
He doesn't lie about big things, he just seems to lie about little things.
For example a couple of months ago he took a shower and he got the inside of the shower dirty and then when I asked him about it he lied to me and told me that he didn't do. I know I didn't do it. My SO didn't do it because he knows better than to do that and if he does, he cleans it up.
Anyways, this morning he put colored spiker hair in this morning before school and he got some on his forehead.
I asked him if he knew there was colored spiker on his forehead and he replied yes.
I asked him if he WASHED it off and he said yes.
I knew he lied. And I told him and then I asked why he lied and he said "I don't know" So I told him that he was grounded from playing with his friends for a week on top of not being able to watch tv or play on his cell phone for a week.
So I went into the bathroom and I seen a dry washcloth hanging over the bathroom sink.
I asked him if he used it and he said yes.
WTH!! I just don't get it. If he didn't lie, then why is it when I asked him he said I don't know? why didn't he just explain to me that he tried to wash it off with a washcloth but didn't use water??
I just don't understand.
I swear my son's favorite saying is, "I don't know."
he says it for everything.
How do i teach him to communciate with me?
How do i get it through to him that telling me i don't know doesn't solve anything?
i keep telling him not to tell me i don't know and both my SO and I have explained to him when the apprepriate time to use i don't know and when it's not.
i just don't know how to get through to him.
I feel bad now because he didn't lie but he did lie. because he didn't WASH his forehead because the cloth was dry so he WIPED his forehead.
i just don't know what to do anymore.
he is lying to the point where i feel that i can't trust him.
little lies turn into big lies.
a couple of months ago he went to his fathers house and took his half sisters toy cell phone without asking and then lied about it.
WHAT DO I DO???? I need help!!