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I was just curious if any moms out there had/have a phobia of something? Mine is Emetophobia. It is a fear of vomit. I am okay with spit up. But when it comes to stomach bugs and actual throw up I freak out. At one point in my life I told myself i would never have kids because of the fear and i didnt want to put them through my phobia. It controls my everyday life and I have tried to get help but honestly I have been looked at as rediculous. I dont know how to get rid of it. Does anyone other moms have the same phobia? Or a different phobia? How do you handle it?

by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 7:47 PM
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rebeccasmly
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 1:57 PM
Heights, spiders, and snakes.

Last time I was up high, I almost had a panic attack.

There was one time I didn't wash laundry for over a week because I saw a spider in the laundry room.

I refuse to go outside at night because I'm afraid I'll come across a snake since we live in the country and we don't have good outdoor lighting on our property.
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la_bella_vita
by Silver Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 1:57 PM

 I have a lot of phobias. I'm not sure if this counts but if I get any unexplained pain, I freak out and start getting a panic attack but as soon as a doctor tells me what is causing the pain, it magically vanishes, lol.

I also have a phobia of seeing a plane crash which started because of 9/11

I'm scared of so many things unfortunately : /

ImNotKarl
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 2:06 PM

It just sucks so much. I can't imagine being that way about vomit with my little boy. He plays so hard he gets sick sometimes. That would be awful. I'm really sorry you have to deal with that. I feel for you. Mine stems from a botched spinal tap as a little kid, I think. I was squirming and they had to redo it a few times, and I can STILL feel the pop of the needle going into my back. It makes me sick.

When my best friend was giving birth I was the only one there for a large part of the labor, and she was scared to get the epidural and asked me to stay with her while they did it. I honestly felt like I had to because she's ALWAYS there when I have to deal with needles, and I love her more than my sisters, so I stayed. It was easily the hardest thing I've ever done. I held it together until the anesthesiolgist left, and then I went into the bathroom and had a meltdown. Worst. Day. Ever. I have never let her know how terrible that was for me. My son has no idea how afraid I am because I don't want to cause him anxiety. I send him to his grandparents for the day of and the day after a needle. My husband is amazingly patient with me, which is awesome.

I'm genuinely sorry you have a phobia. That sucks. At least you seem to have some support. Not having people that get it would be awful.

Quoting Jessica0930:


That is literally my exact reaction when someone is throwing up. I literally become histarical. I scream and cry and just straight up panic. Unless you have a phobia you can't understand what it is like to have that fear constantly nagging in the back of your head. There was one time, my brother was getting sick, I ran to the very opposite end of the house and tried to lock myself in a room. When he was done my mom wanted to show me that he was okay. But instead she literally had to grab my legs and drag me as I screamed and kicked her and was grabbing on to anything I could almost breaking things. She had good intentions cause I had been dealing with this phobia for so long she wanted to help and show me everything was okay. But I think it made it worse for me. You can't just fight your fear like that. You have to be eased into it. I will run anywhere but to get away from it. I have left home for a couple weeks a couple times till it was clear of the house. My parents knew where I was, they let me do it cause they had tried to help me and the only thing that would make me better was getting away. I am so sorry you have to face your phobia like that. Your stronger then I am cause I couldnt do that. My mom has the same thing you do. When she knows she has to get blood drawn or a shot, as soon as she walks into the drs office she passes out. and it never fails she passes out when she is getting it done as well. She did natural birth too cause she couldnt handle handle the needles. I feel for you and again I am so sorry you have to deal with that.

Quoting ImNotKarl:

I have trypanophobia, or the extreme fear of hypodermic needles. I have panic attacks and can't even look at pictures of them. I've sought counselling and it really didn't help me. I've been looked at like I was carzy, I've been told to buck up and act like a grown woman, I've been kicked out of doctors' offices, and I've been accused of faking it. When I'm not pregnant, I take a vallium before I get any injections or blood draws. When I'm pregnant, as I am now, I have to have at least a week to prepare and someone I trust at my appointment with me to keep me calm and focused on something else so I don't have an anxiety attack and FREAK OUT. 

My midwife only draws blood twice unless there's medical need to do more tests. Part of the initial reason I chose midwifery and natural birth was to avoid doctors and needles. I'd rather deal with even the worst pain than having a needle in my arm. I've pulled my own tooth so the dentist wouldn't numb me. My last midwife appointment I was crying so hard and my best friend was holding both of my hands and trying to keep me calm, and my midwife felt SOOOO BAD she kept apologizing. It's awful.

I'm usually pretty humiliated by it and try to give people warning about my reaction in advance because usually people don't know how to react. Doctors are the worst about it because they are so pressed for time and think I'm just being stupid. I seriously can't help it. The logical part of my brain shuts down and I panic. I hate it so much. I can't even be in the room when my son gets shots, which makes me feel like a bad mom.

When I tell people I have trypanophobia and explain what it is, I always hear, "I don't like needles either." It's so much worse than that. Fear I can live with. Discomfort I can handle. Dislike is nothing. This is gut-wrenching panic, completely primal and uncontrolable, and at times I have been considered a danger to myself and others because my fear reaction causes me to fight until I can run away if I don't have enough time to prepare. I have passed out. I have hit people. It makes me throw up and get dizzy and my heart pounds and I sweat and cry and nothing makes it easier.

Phobias suck ass.




My tummy had the rumblies that only hands could satisfy.
saltycoqui
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:48 PM
Heights.... I work through that. As long as I have a safe spot to stand I'm ok. But Do Not ask me to go to the top of the empire state building or statue of liberty! No way I'm never doing that again! I don't get a panic attack. I usually just try to find a way back down.

Clowns... I got over that as I got older. They're just people too.

Dogs... I was attacked by a large dog when I was very little. I don't recall it. My mom took me to therapy. I learned to deal with that too. I have lots of relatives with dogs. Now I only don't like my face licked. I have a nice friendship with my cousin's dog because he's tame.
supermom200581
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:51 PM

 I am deathly afraid of spiders!! Can't see them on T.V, Petstores, books... Even the fake toy spiders

virgochild79
by Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:56 PM

I don't know if this is classified as a "real" phobia but I am terrified of geckos. I can't handle the sight of them. I freak out really bad and have to get away and then end up with nightmares. Reason #852 why I hate living in Texas in the summer.

maria848
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 7:51 PM
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That is wonderfull Jessica. It is just terrific when I hear they are with the Lord. But  we can never pray enough God is good all the time. And we never know what he has in store for us. And I will keep praying for you Jessica. By the way my real name is Elaine. God Bless.

DixieFlower
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 8:48 PM

I really can't think of any phobia's that I have.

shadow_lark
by Bronze Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 8:51 PM
I have a bee phobia. And they are attracted to me :( so I spend a lot of spring/ summer dodging bees like a loon
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squeekers
by Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 2:05 AM

 greatest fear was becoming my mother. she was a manipulative vindictive abuser from my birth until she died when i was 19. i had no skills to fall back on to say how to be a good mom. but with counceling, and a great husband, our 16 yr old DD turned out with a good head on her shoulders.

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