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Hi my name is Heather, I have 4 beautiful children, 2 of them are step daughters, we all seem to have a great relationship. I am going thru a divorce and my kids dad gave up guardianship of my daughter to his mom without notifying me because i was going thru a very unstable period. I have been in full contact with my daughter for a year and things have been really good between us. But recently, she has written two letters stating she wants to kill herself. The first one, she said it was because of her teacher (she has a very strict teacher that picks on a few select students and this issue is being addressed by the schoolboard), but said she had no intentions of following thru. Then I found out today that she wrote another letter, and this time she has planned something, this time it is the teacher and other things. I dont know what to do for her, she doesnt live with me and so I have no say over what happens with her medically, but she does go to therapy, and was just hospitalized in the psychiatric dept. for the second note. Her grandmother is very manipulative, and admits she alienated me from her for a few years because she thought it was in my daughters best interest. Im going to see my daughter this week, and i told her that we needed to talk about these letters, but she said her grandmother doesnt want me to talk to her about any of this. My daughter needs me, and she needs to know I love her no matter what. But if something were to happen to her, I dont know what Id do. It is so hard for me to be stuck in this situation. I have encountered one set back after another trying to get back on my feet so I can get her back, but in the mean time, what do I do to try and keep her in a positive light??? I'm so lost, I never thought I would have to deal with this. How does a 9 year old think of suicide as an answer to their problems? I dont have a good support system as my family does not live in the state, so I feel alone. Any one, please, I need to have someone to talk to that can help me.