So.... Relationship advice?

He was great until the 3 kiddos part. I understand his response (not breaking up with you but the freaking out part). I would take it slow this time around. The biggest indicator is what has he done since then? How has he been with you and the babies after the breakup? Was he MIA? There the whole way through Dr's appts and the birthing room? Pops in once a month or so? Pays CS to you? Baby sits? If he's been there and a total partner and a dad, I could see you taking him back. If he's been a party animal and missing in action this whole time? Yeah I would start giving him Daddy visits and see what happens very slowly. Good luck and remember, if Momma's not happy, NO ONE'S happy. So YOU be happy and if it's not with him, stay friends with him and tell it to him nicely.

Quoting Shaybay218:I'd stay right with my family...He didnt love you anymore one time...it'll happen again...If you want to take him back...do it...just don't leave your moms house to be with him for awhile
I couldn't agree more. Stay where you are give the relationship time to grow make him prove he loves you and always will.

He comes around as much as he can. (between work and school he's pretty busy.) but at least 1-2 times a week he'll pop in and see them. He wasn't all the doctors appointments (again, work/school) but he was there for their birth. He was the first to hold his son (other than docs) and second/third to hold the girls. He doesn't do court mandated CS, but he does pay for alot of their stuff. (clothes, medicine, toys, ect.) He can't really babysit but he'll watch them while I do chores and stuff. He's the best dad they could have in this situation, imo. :)
Quoting mommadana:He was great until the 3 kiddos part. I understand his response (not breaking up with you but the freaking out part). I would take it slow this time around. The biggest indicator is what has he done since then? How has he been with you and the babies after the breakup? Was he MIA? There the whole way through Dr's appts and the birthing room? Pops in once a month or so? Pays CS to you? Baby sits? If he's been there and a total partner and a dad, I could see you taking him back. If he's been a party animal and missing in action this whole time? Yeah I would start giving him Daddy visits and see what happens very slowly. Good luck and remember, if Momma's not happy, NO ONE'S happy. So YOU be happy and if it's not with him, stay friends with him and tell it to him nicely.


- Basherte
Bronze Member on Feb. 20, 2013 at 8:56 AMI would give him another chance, but I wouldn't move in with him or anything yet.
I think he is probably telling the truth about the not being ready for the repsonsibity and that he just didn't know how to handle it at all, and ended up making a bad decision. I was shocked when I read that you were pregnant with triplets. I can imagine how both you and he felt about it.