So I was studying to be a teacher (and was told to run not walk away from that career path by every teacher I observed.) I noticed in middle schools that there are a lot of kids who have been held back. There was a 17 year old in a 6th grade geography class that I observed. Unless it was an AP or Honors High school class there was always at least one kid who was a minim of 3 to 4 years older than the other students. The boy (man?) in the geography class stood out to me in particular because he was very flirty with some of the girls (some who were 12 and some who were a little bit old 13 or 14 but not 17.) On one hand I feel bad for these kids because they are being grouped in with 12 year olds and are told that these kids are their peers. It's not like you can forbid him from talking to the other students right? But on the other hand, I would not want my 12 year old daughter flirting with or even hanging out with a 17 year old.
So I guess what I'm asking is: Is it right, if we base when kids enter school on age, to allow older students to be held back more than a few times? I realize there isn't a practical obvious solution but the situation doesn't seem desireable or in anyone's best interest.
*** If a boy in this situation does end up becoming intamate with a girl and being prosecuted is the school system in some way responcible for setting him up?