The Birth Plan- Getting It Right (or as close as possible)
I just finished writing up my final birth plan... I think. I have done this several times, and I still can't seem to decide exactly what to put in writing. I always think I have every possibility covered. I also always manage to run into the one thing I hadn't thought of in the delivery room.
There doesn't seem to be a way to plan for everything. I have thought up a scenario for just about every outcome possible, but something always manages to throw a wrench in things. My back ups hit snags, options that I was told were possible become unavailable at the last minute, and the unforeseeable becomes reality.
For instance, are you okay with a medical student observing your delivery? Do you want to have to make that decision in the middle of the event? That is exactly what I was asked in the middle of my last delivery, with my feet up in stirrups and the student already in the room gawking. Who would have thought that was something you needed to decide while putting a birth plan together?
Do you want to be able to move around and choose an unconventional position to deliver in? Are there birth aids you want to have access to? Do you want to be able to video the birth or take pictures immediately after the birth? Make sure to have it all written down. Sometimes a hospital might have a policy that says you can do certain things but a delivery doctor that is uncomfortable allowing it. It could go the other way, too; your delivery doctor could be a little more lax about following policy and more focused on giving you the best birth experience you could have.
The best thing to do is to write a birth plan and look it over often. If your options or desires change, change them in writing. Get to know each doctor that could be on call at your hospital and how they feel about your birth plan. If there is a doctor you really mesh well with, see if he or she is okay being called in specifically to deliver you. It is your birth and your baby. Don't be afraid to take charge!