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The Birth Plan- Getting It Right (or as close as possible)

Posted by on Feb. 28, 2013 at 5:01 PM
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    I just finished writing up my final birth plan... I think. I have done this several times, and I still can't seem to decide exactly what to put in writing. I always think I have every possibility covered. I also always manage to run into the one thing I hadn't thought of in the delivery room.

   There doesn't seem to be a way to plan for everything. I have thought up a scenario for just about every outcome possible, but something always manages to throw a wrench in things. My back ups hit snags, options that I was told were possible become unavailable at the last minute, and the unforeseeable becomes reality.

    For instance, are you okay with a medical student observing your delivery? Do you want to have to make that decision in the middle of the event? That is exactly what I was asked in the middle of my last delivery, with my feet up in stirrups and the student already in the room gawking. Who would have thought that was something you needed to decide while putting a birth plan together?

    Do you want to be able to move around and choose an unconventional position to deliver in? Are there birth aids you want to have access to? Do you want to be able to video the birth or take pictures immediately after the birth? Make sure to have it all written down. Sometimes a hospital might have a policy that says you can do certain things but a delivery doctor that is uncomfortable allowing it. It could go the other way, too; your delivery doctor could be a little more lax about following policy and more focused on giving you the best birth experience you could have.

    The best thing to do is to write a birth plan and look it over often. If your options or desires change, change them in writing. Get to know each doctor that could be on call at your hospital and how they feel about your birth plan. If there is a doctor you really mesh well with, see if he or she is okay being called in specifically to deliver you. It is your birth and your baby. Don't be afraid to take charge!

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chattycassie
by on Feb. 28, 2013 at 5:12 PM

 WOW I never did one with any of my three kids. I pretty much barked to orders as I was in labor. :)

Janet
by Ruby Member on Feb. 28, 2013 at 5:28 PM
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Good ideas.
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MamaMoopsie
by Member on Feb. 28, 2013 at 5:33 PM
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I wrote out a birth plan with my first and second pregnancies and never really needed them--thanks in part to my doctor, my best friend, and my husband. I'd gone over the birth plans extensively with all three and so with my first delivery when the nurse would get upset with how often I got up to use the restroom my best friend stepped in and was my buffer (I had to pee like every ten minutes!) or when she started shoving the request forms for an elective c-section in my face, she was escorted out of the room by my husband and best friend and I got a new nurse.

I didn't have the birth plan with me with my third delivery and it was the one I needed it for. My doctor who had delivered my first two daughters had moved to another state just before I'd gotten pregnant and while I liked my new doctor we didn't click in the delivery room. She didn't want me getting out of bed at all. I told her repeatedly that I needed to get up and move my hips and both the nurse and doctor kept telling me no. Finally after 17 hours of HARD labor my best friend finally got there (she'd been in another city for work and had to rush home to be with me) and she said "To hell with you" to the nurse and got me up on my knees and I went from being dilated at 6 to 10 within 30 minutes.

I'm going with a different doctor this time and I dug out my old birthing plan and did a few minor changes. The office I go to has four doctors and any one of them could deliver me, but so far they have all been super receptive to my birth plan. They've all said they'll allow me to labor in water and walk as much as I need to.

goddess99
by Michelle on Feb. 28, 2013 at 5:39 PM

I wrote out  birth plan but it wasn't followed, I think they are just too busy to bother with them. That was the impression I got. I didn't care though.

Maevelyn
by on Feb. 28, 2013 at 5:49 PM
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I have to say I really don't mind medical students in the room. They have to learn some how and I think it's sad that so many graduate with out ever seeing a completely natural birth. 

Maevelyn
by on Feb. 28, 2013 at 5:51 PM

That sucks. We just had a baby in August and my SO's mom (who is a delivery nurse of all things) was just like your friend. She and my mom have really good "don't F@ck with me" faces so nobody tried to be pushy. 

Quoting MamaMoopsie:

I wrote out a birth plan with my first and second pregnancies and never really needed them--thanks in part to my doctor, my best friend, and my husband. I'd gone over the birth plans extensively with all three and so with my first delivery when the nurse would get upset with how often I got up to use the restroom my best friend stepped in and was my buffer (I had to pee like every ten minutes!) or when she started shoving the request forms for an elective c-section in my face, she was escorted out of the room by my husband and best friend and I got a new nurse.

I didn't have the birth plan with me with my third delivery and it was the one I needed it for. My doctor who had delivered my first two daughters had moved to another state just before I'd gotten pregnant and while I liked my new doctor we didn't click in the delivery room. She didn't want me getting out of bed at all. I told her repeatedly that I needed to get up and move my hips and both the nurse and doctor kept telling me no. Finally after 17 hours of HARD labor my best friend finally got there (she'd been in another city for work and had to rush home to be with me) and she said "To hell with you" to the nurse and got me up on my knees and I went from being dilated at 6 to 10 within 30 minutes.

I'm going with a different doctor this time and I dug out my old birthing plan and did a few minor changes. The office I go to has four doctors and any one of them could deliver me, but so far they have all been super receptive to my birth plan. They've all said they'll allow me to labor in water and walk as much as I need to.


louzannalady
by on Feb. 28, 2013 at 6:54 PM
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I agree! My last birth was a drug-free water birth. I am so glad that two student OB's got to be there to see it! : ) I hope they appreciate how peaceful and beautiful it was. No glaring lights. No stirrups. No coached pushing. Just me, breathing out baby, gently and easilyand calmly. : )

Quoting Maevelyn:

I have to say I really don't mind medical students in the room. They have to learn some how and I think it's sad that so many graduate with out ever seeing a completely natural birth. 


MommyMarcoux
by Member on Feb. 28, 2013 at 8:15 PM

 I really wish I could go with a water birth, but the hospital I will be at this time doesn't support them. I have never delivered at this new hospital and it feels like I am going over so many things that my other doctors knew by heart. I ended up allowing the students to watch my last delivery. I didn't mind the watching. It was over in a few seconds anyway. My problem came afterwards. After the delivery OB checked me to be sure I hadn't torn, she invited the students to check, too. One of them in particular bothered me. It was normally a quick check, but he went from that to a damned vacation in my private area. I guess he couldn't tell what he was supposed to be looking for. By that point, I was livid. This time I put it in my plan that I didn't mind observers, but they were not to be giving me any exams afterwards.


Quoting louzannalady:

I agree! My last birth was a drug-free water birth. I am so glad that two student OB's got to be there to see it! : ) I hope they appreciate how peaceful and beautiful it was. No glaring lights. No stirrups. No coached pushing. Just me, breathing out baby, gently and easilyand calmly. : )

Quoting Maevelyn:

I have to say I really don't mind medical students in the room. They have to learn some how and I think it's sad that so many graduate with out ever seeing a completely natural birth. 



 

wifeynmommie80
by on Feb. 28, 2013 at 8:17 PM

Me too they tended to be pointless when the time came. 

Quoting goddess99:

I wrote out  birth plan but it wasn't followed, I think they are just too busy to bother with them. That was the impression I got. I didn't care though.


shadow_lark
by Bronze Member on Feb. 28, 2013 at 8:20 PM
I wrote one the first time. It wasn't needed. The hospital is very mom and baby friendly. I didn't even bother the second time.
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