My son, now 9 months old is the first grandchild for my family. My mom was understandably excited and since his arrival she's been a doting gramma.
When I was a child my parents lost a baby. She died after six months in the hospital. Neither of my parents ever really healed. Over the last 26 years her memory has never been far from my mom. While I understand her grief and wishes that things could have been different, she's starting to make me feel uncomfortable having her around my son.
She's started saying he's her baby and telling people that he's her second chance at having the baby she lost. Just the other day she told someone that she feels like he takes the place of her baby. She also tells people that she makes beautiful grandchildren. She's started trying to tell me what he should eat, play with, etc.
I love my mom and want my son to have a relationship with his gramma, but she's making me uncomfortable and I'm starting to wonder if having her spend time with him is a good idea.