My ex husband and I always agreed on not spanking our son. Time outs have always worked the same for him. About over 6 months ago my son told his babysitter that my exs new wife had spanked him. He was just about to turn 3. I called my ex as soon as my babysitter told me, he said that he would never allow that to happen. That she new exactly how we felt and she knew he would not tolerate it. He is just as strict about the no spanking as I am, especially when it comes to someone besides us doing it. So I just blew it off as just a misinterpretation from a toddler. Theres been a thousand times hes gotten a boo boo, and when someone asked how he got it he'd say mommy did it, and of coarse I know I didnt. Kids just dont know how to fully get everything out so its often misunderstood. But I've still wondered in the back of my mind weather or not she did spank him.
Yesterday my ex came over and was telling me they where having some issues, because they just had a son together, and she believes in spanking. I didn't want to get in the middle so I didnt get to much into it, but it really brought back the day that my son claimed she spanked him. That little mommy instinct believes she did. But with my ex and her both denying it, and now my son can communicate better its been to long for him to remember.
I know if she would do it now he would tell me, but I am just so mad that she had the guts to hit my child!! I do not trust her alone with him anymore, but i know my ex will not listen and continue to leave them alone because he truly believes she didnt.
UGH, just frustrated. Even if I did spank him, I would never allow someone besides me or his father to do it!! What if she does it agian?