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Definitely a trial of patience. My son is a little over 2.5 yrs. He knows his alphabet, numbers, colors, shapes, and is starting to read simple sentences but he refuses to use the potty! He can holds it for up to 10hrs at night and 8hrs through the day. Hence the reason i backed off potty training because he did this for a wk and i didn't want it to lead to any health issues. He can start and stop his pee, and considering he can hold it he can control it. He will sit on the potty but will wait until he gets in a diaper to p. At daycare they are not consistent and during the wk i only have him for hr in the am, and 3 hrs in pm before he goes to bed. sat hes w his dad and i have no clue if he helps. Sundays the only day i could work w him which doesn't even seen worth it. Some evenings he ll just hold it til the middle of the night. Ive tried stickers, Cheerios in the potty, toy rewards, acting crazily excited when he does go and nothing... He has a will of steel as its usually a 4wk battle for me to get him to do certain things w/o him pitching a fit (ex - almost every morning for 4wks he sat in time out until he calmed down because he didn't want to wear a jacket, no he was not in timeout because he wouldn't wear it, he was in timeout for the huge fit he threw. Sitting in timeout is sometimes the only way for me to get him to calm down so i can either explain to him or make him agree to listen. Then one day hes like ok and lets me put his jacket on when its needed. 4wks to get him to say please; 4wks w/o his beloved juice all because he wouldn't say please then one day he just says it). The idea has to b his or he won't do it.... What did you do to help spark potty interest in your kids?

~Jamie~

by on Mar. 19, 2013 at 10:55 PM
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Jlcamp
by on Mar. 20, 2013 at 1:44 PM
Well that's comforting to know it was that quick! Thank you!



Quoting goddess99:


~Jamie~

Janet
by Ruby Member on Mar. 20, 2013 at 2:22 PM
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He isn't ready yet. Give him a few months and then try again. Never force the issue.
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Jlcamp
by on Mar. 20, 2013 at 7:42 PM
Thank you all for ur support. I spoke to daycare again and they said he had to b trained at 3.5yrs. His Teacher didn't seemed concerned, so i guess i need to learn to b patient and not worry about it.
want10more
by Member on Mar. 21, 2013 at 6:00 AM
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 never said i threatened my kids, i don't potty train by gunpoint. my evidence would be my 6 healthy kids, 5 of which are potty trained all at their own time, (one child is 13 mos) and my evidence would be their pediatrician and their specialists. i don't ever take the word of internet medical advice. i just take my kids to the appropriate medical providers. if you are potty training in a fun, supportive way, with much congratulations, there is no reason a child's health would be in ANY way affected. but, as the the original poster declared, there must be support from all aspects of the child's life. period.


 

Quoting SlapItHigh:

Remember, I said it increases the risks which your post doesn't actually provide any evidence of. I am getting my information from an expert pediatric urologist who specializes in this - http://www.babble.com/toddler/toddler-health-safety/dangers-potty-training-early/

If you wait until they are truly ready, there are no hoops to jump through. I never had to do any of that with mine. Never once had to clean up pee with any of my 3 boys. I can't advocate for threatening my children to get them to be potty trained especially for arbitrary reasons that will only put their health at risk.


Quoting want10more:

 i disagree. children that get trained before 3 are simply ready to be trained at that time. i have 6 kids, most were potty trained before 3... w/ NO ill effects.  HOWEVER, the reason he ain't ready is cuz you're getting no support. from the daycare or your ex. so it's no wonder! first i'd complain to the daycare, say, hey! you won't take him if he's not trained, yet you're not helping! and my (now) 6 yr old was a toughie to train. i found his currency: wii games. he had to pee for wii. if he peed his pants, he couldn't play until he'd gone pee/poop in the potty. amazing what hoops kids wil jump thru...



 


Quoting SlapItHigh:


His academic advancements are not a sign of readiness, nor is ability to hold it. I never tried to spark any of my children's interest. I just wait until they are ready and it happens on its own with no negative effects. Children trained before age 3 have extra health risks b/c they tend to hold it in favor of continuing to play. 


 


 



 

want10more
by Member on Mar. 22, 2013 at 4:59 AM
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well iffen his teacher(s) ain't concerned then you're in the clear i think! and whether he gets trained in the next 2 days, or the next 2 mos, trust me, his health is not an issue.


 

Quoting Jlcamp:

Thank you all for ur support. I spoke to daycare again and they said he had to b trained at 3.5yrs. His Teacher didn't seemed concerned, so i guess i need to learn to b patient and not worry about it.


 

MomofHDFandNWF
by on Mar. 22, 2013 at 9:44 AM

If you think he is ready to train, you need to "bite the bullet" and move him to underwear.  If he pees in his undies, then he does, and you change him.  I also run a child care, I ask parents to take either a long weekend OR take a vacation time to "jump start" their child's potty training.  I have found for most kids, it is only a 2-3 day process once you move them to underwear - that is as long as they are ready and you are consistent.  Then, as long as you share with me what strategies you are using (and provide plenty of extra clothes) I will contine the training here.

You will probably either keep him in pull-ups overnight (or have a waterproof mattress cover) for a bit longer at night.

I am really anti-pull-ups - to me they are a glorified diaper, and they don't encourage toddlers to potty train as quickly as putting them into "big kid" undies - IMHO. 

Hope this helps! 

Jlcamp
by on Mar. 22, 2013 at 2:02 PM
Quoting MomofHDFandNWF:

If you think he is ready to train, you need to "bite the bullet" and move him to underwear.  If he pees in his undies, then he does, and you change him.  I also run a child care, I ask parents to take either a long weekend OR take a vacation time to "jump start" their child's potty training.  I have found for most kids, it is only a 2-3 day process once you move them to underwear - that is as long as they are ready and you are consistent.  Then, as long as you share with me what strategies you are using (and provide plenty of extra clothes) I will contine the training here.

You will probably either keep him in pull-ups overnight (or have a waterproof mattress cover) for a bit longer at night.

I am really anti-pull-ups - to me they are a glorified diaper, and they don't encourage toddlers to potty train as quickly as putting them into "big kid" undies - IMHO. 

Hope this helps! 







R u in FL? Lol. I did try a month or so ago for a week putting him in underwear but it didn't work... Probably because during the day he was at daycare and they put him in diaper / pull up. But at night hed b in underwear, he ended up holding it for up to 10 hrs and only p'd while at school. So i decided to back off. Thank you for ur thoughts! Maybe ill try again in a month or so.

~Jamie~

MomofHDFandNWF
by on Mar. 22, 2013 at 3:54 PM
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Unfortunately - no -- other end of the eastern seaboard - I am from coastal Maine. But after teh 12 -18 inches of snow we got earlier this week, with another predicted storm next week; Florida is looking better and better all the time.  Only minor detail - I don't do well with humidity....

Good luck!!


Quoting Jlcamp:

Quoting MomofHDFandNWF:

If you think he is ready to train, you need to "bite the bullet" and move him to underwear.  If he pees in his undies, then he does, and you change him.  I also run a child care, I ask parents to take either a long weekend OR take a vacation time to "jump start" their child's potty training.  I have found for most kids, it is only a 2-3 day process once you move them to underwear - that is as long as they are ready and you are consistent.  Then, as long as you share with me what strategies you are using (and provide plenty of extra clothes) I will contine the training here.

You will probably either keep him in pull-ups overnight (or have a waterproof mattress cover) for a bit longer at night.

I am really anti-pull-ups - to me they are a glorified diaper, and they don't encourage toddlers to potty train as quickly as putting them into "big kid" undies - IMHO. 

Hope this helps! 







R u in FL? Lol. I did try a month or so ago for a week putting him in underwear but it didn't work... Probably because during the day he was at daycare and they put him in diaper / pull up. But at night hed b in underwear, he ended up holding it for up to 10 hrs and only p'd while at school. So i decided to back off. Thank you for ur thoughts! Maybe ill try again in a month or so.


want10more
by Member on Mar. 23, 2013 at 5:07 AM

 

ohhhhh how right you are. pullups just suck. i've never used them. but i HAVE used cloth diapers w all my kids, that way they feel really WET and uncomfy.

Quoting MomofHDFandNWF:

If you think he is ready to train, you need to "bite the bullet" and move him to underwear.  If he pees in his undies, then he does, and you change him.  I also run a child care, I ask parents to take either a long weekend OR take a vacation time to "jump start" their child's potty training.  I have found for most kids, it is only a 2-3 day process once you move them to underwear - that is as long as they are ready and you are consistent.  Then, as long as you share with me what strategies you are using (and provide plenty of extra clothes) I will contine the training here.

You will probably either keep him in pull-ups overnight (or have a waterproof mattress cover) for a bit longer at night.

I am really anti-pull-ups - to me they are a glorified diaper, and they don't encourage toddlers to potty train as quickly as putting them into "big kid" undies - IMHO. 

Hope this helps! 


 

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