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Classmates Birthday Parties *Poll *ETA update

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Question: What should we give?

Options:

A card with $5 money or gift

Card with $10 money or gift

Card with $15 or more money or gift

Card and no money/gift

Other, please specify


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Total Votes: 98

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My dd has been invited to a couple parties lately of classmates but they are not friends. Each time the party is at the local roller skating rink so of course my dd want's to go, which I don't mind. But my question is what is an appropriate gift for a classmate? Everyone is 10-11 years old.

Thank you so much for everyone's opinions. Alot of you said "in my area", well here 78% of all students in the district get free or reduced lunch. So in my area these parties are rarely attended. The last one my dd went to, 30 classmates were invited and 7 went, my dd and the party boy included. I gave $5 for that boy since they were not friends. The next party is this Sunday and I'm giving a $5 gift card to Claires. It will cost those parents a couple dollars for my kid to skate because she is bringing her own roller blades. I also send my dd with cash so she can buy water, since the parents buy pitchers of pop which my dd doesn't drink. So skating and a cupcake for my dd is less than $5. (There is no indication that any food is going to be served beyond cupcakes.) Thanks again for all your input, very interesting! =) Maybe I should add it doesn't cost anything to have a party at this place. You only pay per skater and skate rental, it's Never more than $5 per person.

by on Apr. 22, 2013 at 4:20 PM
Replies (21-30):
delanna6two
by Platinum Member on Apr. 24, 2013 at 11:22 AM
1 mom liked this

 giftcards

Kris_PBG
by on Apr. 24, 2013 at 11:47 AM
Yes - $20 is definitely the "low end" for my area. The upper end us usually $30.


Quoting undrcvrmom:

This would also be the norm in my area.  I usually buy a gift between 20-30 or give a $25 gift card.  Close family friends may even get  more but I can ususally keep it between 20 and 30 bucks.  

I figure the parent is throwing a party, feeding and entertaining my kid for a few hours.  I also love to give gifts and finding the perfect one even for a kid is exciting to me.lol



Quoting Kris_PBG:

Just sharing the norm for my area.





Quoting goddess99:

Oh there's no way in hell I'm giving $20 to a kid my dd isn't even friends with. But thanks for your opinion.

Quoting Kris_PBG:

$5????








Yikes - I wouldn't give less than $20 in cash or gift card.








goddess99
by Michelle on Apr. 24, 2013 at 11:47 AM

I understand and I would agree if they were close friends.

Quoting Kris_PBG:

Just sharing the norm for my area.


Quoting goddess99:

Oh there's no way in hell I'm giving $20 to a kid my dd isn't even friends with. But thanks for your opinion.

Quoting Kris_PBG:

$5????





Yikes - I wouldn't give less than $20 in cash or gift card.




goddess99
by Michelle on Apr. 24, 2013 at 11:50 AM

I'm going to give a gift card to Claires =)

Quoting delanna6two:

 giftcards


EarlGrayHot
by on Apr. 24, 2013 at 11:56 AM
1 mom liked this

It's hard to say but I'd call the parents and ask what the child would like.  I'd always give a gift rather than money if at all possible.  But that does take time and if it's last minute that would be a mediating factor.

delanna6two
by Platinum Member on Apr. 24, 2013 at 1:19 PM

 Sounds good:)

Quoting goddess99:

I'm going to give a gift card to Claires =)

Quoting delanna6two:

 giftcards


 

MichelleMc
by on Apr. 24, 2013 at 1:50 PM


Wow. So what do you give family? Just curious because if you give strangers that much, wowsa. I guess I live in a "poor" area, considering LOL. No one here gives $20 unless your kids were like best friends. 

Quoting Kris_PBG:

Yes - $20 is definitely the "low end" for my area. The upper end us usually $30.


Quoting undrcvrmom:

This would also be the norm in my area.  I usually buy a gift between 20-30 or give a $25 gift card.  Close family friends may even get  more but I can ususally keep it between 20 and 30 bucks.  

I figure the parent is throwing a party, feeding and entertaining my kid for a few hours.  I also love to give gifts and finding the perfect one even for a kid is exciting to me.lol



Quoting Kris_PBG:

Just sharing the norm for my area.





Quoting goddess99:

Oh there's no way in hell I'm giving $20 to a kid my dd isn't even friends with. But thanks for your opinion.

Quoting Kris_PBG:

$5????








Yikes - I wouldn't give less than $20 in cash or gift card.










Michelle, Body Combat Addict
Proud Mom of Jonathan, My Future Soldier and Eagle & Vigil Scout
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Kris_PBG
by on Apr. 24, 2013 at 5:04 PM
My sister just had a baby, so we haven't had out first birthday yet - but I would say $30-$50 would be my personal range for a family birthday.

I try to keep casual friend gifts to $20, grab great gifts when on sale, etc.. But dh teases me (jokingly) about being the "cheap" mom.

Every area is different though! :)




Quoting MichelleMc:


Wow. So what do you give family? Just curious because if you give strangers that much, wowsa. I guess I live in a "poor" area, considering LOL. No one here gives $20 unless your kids were like best friends. 


Quoting Kris_PBG:

Yes - $20 is definitely the "low end" for my area. The upper end us usually $30.





Quoting undrcvrmom:

This would also be the norm in my area.  I usually buy a gift between 20-30 or give a $25 gift card.  Close family friends may even get  more but I can ususally keep it between 20 and 30 bucks.  

I figure the parent is throwing a party, feeding and entertaining my kid for a few hours.  I also love to give gifts and finding the perfect one even for a kid is exciting to me.lol




Quoting Kris_PBG:

Just sharing the norm for my area.








Quoting goddess99:

Oh there's no way in hell I'm giving $20 to a kid my dd isn't even friends with. But thanks for your opinion.

Quoting Kris_PBG:

$5????











Yikes - I wouldn't give less than $20 in cash or gift card.















mrsnoble2004
by on Apr. 24, 2013 at 5:22 PM

Honestly in my area you are lucky if anyone shows up so not much emphasis is put on the gift. Dollar Tree stuff is the norm for kids that you aren't actually friends with. If they would quit requiring kids to invite the whole class so no one gets butt hurt it would probably be more pleasant for everyone.

goddess99
by Michelle on Apr. 24, 2013 at 6:01 PM

I agree, it's hard when you have to invite everyone.

Quoting mrsnoble2004:

Honestly in my area you are lucky if anyone shows up so not much emphasis is put on the gift. Dollar Tree stuff is the norm for kids that you aren't actually friends with. If they would quit requiring kids to invite the whole class so no one gets butt hurt it would probably be more pleasant for everyone.


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