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Classmates Birthday Parties *Poll *ETA update

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Question: What should we give?

Options:

A card with $5 money or gift

Card with $10 money or gift

Card with $15 or more money or gift

Card and no money/gift

Other, please specify


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My dd has been invited to a couple parties lately of classmates but they are not friends. Each time the party is at the local roller skating rink so of course my dd want's to go, which I don't mind. But my question is what is an appropriate gift for a classmate? Everyone is 10-11 years old.

Thank you so much for everyone's opinions. Alot of you said "in my area", well here 78% of all students in the district get free or reduced lunch. So in my area these parties are rarely attended. The last one my dd went to, 30 classmates were invited and 7 went, my dd and the party boy included. I gave $5 for that boy since they were not friends. The next party is this Sunday and I'm giving a $5 gift card to Claires. It will cost those parents a couple dollars for my kid to skate because she is bringing her own roller blades. I also send my dd with cash so she can buy water, since the parents buy pitchers of pop which my dd doesn't drink. So skating and a cupcake for my dd is less than $5. (There is no indication that any food is going to be served beyond cupcakes.) Thanks again for all your input, very interesting! =) Maybe I should add it doesn't cost anything to have a party at this place. You only pay per skater and skate rental, it's Never more than $5 per person.

by on Apr. 22, 2013 at 4:20 PM
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splatz
by Sarah on Apr. 24, 2013 at 8:09 PM
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I say $10 for a non-friend.
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splatz
by Sarah on Apr. 24, 2013 at 8:10 PM
I think that is dumb honestly. Cam never attends the non-friend parties.

Quoting goddess99:

I agree, it's hard when you have to invite everyone.

Quoting mrsnoble2004:

Honestly in my area you are lucky if anyone shows up so not much emphasis is put on the gift. Dollar Tree stuff is the norm for kids that you aren't actually friends with. If they would quit requiring kids to invite the whole class so no one gets butt hurt it would probably be more pleasant for everyone.


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disneymom2two
by on Apr. 24, 2013 at 8:20 PM
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We usually spend $15-20 on a gift.

goddess99
by Michelle on Apr. 24, 2013 at 8:20 PM

Z usually doesn't either but she loves the roller rink and we know the owners, go there all the time and Z is going to have her party there in July so if I don't let her go to those I'll never hear the end of it. But if the party is at someone's house and I've never hear that kids name before, she doesn't go.

Quoting splatz:

I think that is dumb honestly. Cam never attends the non-friend parties.

Quoting goddess99:

I agree, it's hard when you have to invite everyone.

Quoting mrsnoble2004:

Honestly in my area you are lucky if anyone shows up so not much emphasis is put on the gift. Dollar Tree stuff is the norm for kids that you aren't actually friends with. If they would quit requiring kids to invite the whole class so no one gets butt hurt it would probably be more pleasant for everyone.



splatz
by Sarah on Apr. 24, 2013 at 8:25 PM
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Ack.. all the ones he has been to were at public places. He definitely wouldn't be going to someones house. And I always stay with him lol.

Quoting goddess99:

Z usually doesn't either but she loves the roller rink and we know the owners, go there all the time and Z is going to have her party there in July so if I don't let her go to those I'll never hear the end of it. But if the party is at someone's house and I've never hear that kids name before, she doesn't go.

Quoting splatz:

I think that is dumb honestly. Cam never attends the non-friend parties.



Quoting goddess99:

I agree, it's hard when you have to invite everyone.

Quoting mrsnoble2004:

Honestly in my area you are lucky if anyone shows up so not much emphasis is put on the gift. Dollar Tree stuff is the norm for kids that you aren't actually friends with. If they would quit requiring kids to invite the whole class so no one gets butt hurt it would probably be more pleasant for everyone.



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Kylie819
by on Apr. 25, 2013 at 12:15 AM


Quoting Kris_PBG:

$5????





Yikes - I wouldn't give less than $20 in cash or gift card.
Casperstalks
by on Apr. 25, 2013 at 12:18 AM
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I picked $10. I always say $1 for each year of life. (:

Karen_S
by on Apr. 25, 2013 at 12:26 AM

Just saying what is the average in my area, not saying what is right or wrong...

First, in most cases where tons of kids are invited, like the whole class or a lot of non-friends, most of the time it is a "just bring yourself, no gifs please" invitation.  (And for the mom who said that these big parties are dumb - they are actually a nice way for kids to get to know each other a bit more outside of school. If you had a kid who had recently moved, you would be very happy that someone was kind enough to invite your new child to parties even though they aren't already best friends).

So usually gifts are only for smaller parties where the kids are closer friends. The range seems to be $10-20.  Average $12-15, though $20 pretty common. That's just what it is in my area. But I don't know anyone who would look down on someone who gave a smaller present. No need to go over your budget. 

nocalmegan
by New Member on Apr. 25, 2013 at 12:32 AM
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Geez.... Only 5$? I'd give at least 30$ cash or gift.
Caitlyn137
by on Apr. 25, 2013 at 12:33 AM
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Just get a toy thats ten bucks
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