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My husband is afraid of the topic of "sex"

Posted by on Apr. 29, 2013 at 1:16 AM
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I don't know how to deal with my husband's issue with sex. I swear he starts to raise his voice every time I bring up sex. I've been dealing with it when it comes to us and our sex life, nothing can be out of the norm or even close to taboo. Including me having an orgasm... and any tipe of toy is the devil! But he likes to have anal but I can't even talk about anything else or try anything. I am dealing with it. But now I tried to talk to him about how we are going to talk to our son about sex and he was like we don't need too, the Bible says it all. While I am a devote Christian and would like to raise my son that way I refuse to be niave. We both had sex before marriage and even though I would hope my son would wait, he might not. I don't many that have. I hate arguing with my husband because he is 6'7" and he gets loud. And always does it in front of our son who is 5 months old and I sacrifice my view's to save my son from seeing or hearing it. I don't know what to do, and I am so frusturating by this. I don't know what to do. HELP.

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KRIZZ25
by Member on Apr. 29, 2013 at 1:23 AM
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u need to address that issues before its to late.
DemeterMystic
by on Apr. 29, 2013 at 1:39 AM
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So vibrators and female orgasms are to dirty but anal isn't? He isn't making any sense. I think you can encaurage waiting for marriage but also teach your son how to avoid unwanted pregnancy and STD's. It's easy: just point out that nothing is 100% effective but abstinence.

webberley12
by on Apr. 29, 2013 at 1:56 AM

ya he dosen't think about me much in those area's.
Well that's what I think but he doesn't think we need to say anything. Just to teach him out of the Bible and that's all we need to do.


Quoting DemeterMystic:

So vibrators and female orgasms are to dirty but anal isn't? He isn't making any sense. I think you can encaurage waiting for marriage but also teach your son how to avoid unwanted pregnancy and STD's. It's easy: just point out that nothing is 100% effective but abstinence.



jessesbride
by on Apr. 29, 2013 at 4:16 AM

Sounds as if you are married to a bully who expects things to just "happen" ... Life is not like that. You have to be the one to talk to & TEACH your kids or the world will do it for you & your kids will listen to the world views rather than YOUR VIEWS!!!

goddess99
by Michelle on Apr. 29, 2013 at 10:26 AM
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Your dh sounds very selfish and the fact that you seem afraid of him is NOT healthy. Was he like this before you got married? He needs therapy or something.

Shelly126
by Michele on Apr. 29, 2013 at 11:35 AM
Quoting jessesbride:

Sounds as if you are married to a bully who expects things to just "happen" ... Life is not like that. You have to be the one to talk to & TEACH your kids or the world will do it for you & your kids will listen to the world views rather than YOUR VIEWS!!!


i totally agree, what he learns on the street and what he learns from your husbands close minded, bully attitude may send him in a very bad direction. Sometimes when a parent is too much of a loudmouth, close minded, my way only personality it causes alot of rebellion and animosity. Especially if he sees how he yells you into submission.
Take a stand now for yourself and for your son, if he is unwilling to listen or tries to yell over you, seek counsel from an outside source, perhaps your priest would be willing to educate him on how he should discuss things with your on and how important a parents guidance is.
As far as your sexual issues, refuse anal if you don't like it and tell him when he is more ready to discuss what satisfies BOTH of you in the bedroom, you will consider the subject of anal again.
SlapItHigh
by on Apr. 29, 2013 at 11:39 AM
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It sounds like he had a very Puritanical view of sex. That's actually the result of the devil twisting sex. He should pull out his Bible b/c the Bible expressly forbids anal sex. Bottom line is that he needs to untwist his warped view of sex. Sex is like a taste of heaven and there's nothing wrong with talking about it! It's amazing and wonderful!! I would recommend reading Theology of the Body. You can even find a bunch of videos on youtube on Theology of the Body.
Pammi86
by Pamela on Apr. 29, 2013 at 12:43 PM

I would have a talk with him when your son is not around. And if he gets loud I would walk away.

MissAlly89
by on Apr. 29, 2013 at 1:03 PM

I was thinking the very same thing you did.

Quoting DemeterMystic:

So vibrators and female orgasms are to dirty but anal isn't? He isn't making any sense. I think you can encaurage waiting for marriage but also teach your son how to avoid unwanted pregnancy and STD's. It's easy: just point out that nothing is 100% effective but abstinence.


chattycassie
by on Apr. 29, 2013 at 1:12 PM
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 This

Quoting goddess99:

Your dh sounds very selfish and the fact that you seem afraid of him is NOT healthy. Was he like this before you got married? He needs therapy or something.

 

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