Okay, first off, please no judging, bashing, etc.
My DS1 is 4 and has always been pretty much an average kid. He talked early but other than that, normal. Last Saturday, however, something freaked me out pretty bad. He usually plays in our (fenced in) backyard, with his dog. He agravates the goats, follows the chickens around, and plays in the dirt. But Saturday, he drowned one of the 4 day old baby goats in his kiddie pool. He freaked when it stopped moving and ran for Daddy, because Daddy can fix anything. When we asked him whay he did it, he said he only wanted to see if it could breathe under water and if it would hold it's breath like he does in the bathtub. (Serious WTF moment for me) Now, drowning is not something we have ever discussed, why I don't know, it just never seemed to come up. We have talked about how on Looney Tunes and Tom & Jerry, when they hit one another or when Elmer Fudd or Wiley Coyote shoot themselves or blow up how this is a cartoon, it's not real. If you do something like that in real life, you die. Drowning, however never came up. He got in serious trouble, and got put to bed because I was like, what the crap do I do now? The next morning he wanted to go out and asked if I would come out so he could pet the new baby goat. (He's not allowed to pet the animals unless I'm out with him b/c he's 4 and is sometimes too rough) When I explained to him the goat was dead because he held it under water, he started to cry, saying he really didn't mean to hurt it and couldn't Daddy or I fix it. My question is this: Do I make him an appointment with a psychologist now, or wait and see if it was just weird childish curiousity? He is showing remorse (as much as a 4yo is capable of) and he has never been malicious or deliberately hurt his little brother (22mo) and he has never purposely hurt his puppy or rabbit. DH says I'm making way too big of a deal about it, and I know that I watch way too much criminal minds and that's what has me so freaked out. But, on the other hand, I don't want to ignore it and wake up one day to find him pulling the wings off of flies or something equally creepy. I guess what I need from you ladies is some reassurance that my child is not going to grow up and be some kind of monster.
on May. 23, 2013 at 4:54 AM