I finally told my husband that I was thinking of planning a trip to visit my friend in New York. I told him it had to do with how unappreciated I felt, he thinks I'm lazy and is never satisfied with anything I do. He dwells on what I dont do. Catch is, I have 3 kids, 2 yrs old and under. He has about 10-12 days paid time off left. I would have been gone, maybe a week. When I told him this, he got a disgusted look and told me I was selfish. I told him, thats fine that you feel that way, this trip was supposed to help change that attitude you have. I told him, his aunt, his mother and every other veteran mother (friends) Ive talked to have suggested this because it was a turning point for their marriages. I havent agreed to visit my friend because I feel everyone would pick up the slack for him and look at me like I abandoned my family. The reason I told him is because he has been talking to me about divorce for a bit over a month now. I think he is being selfish by giving up when theres not a huge problem with us, he just wants to be a teenager again instead of grow up. Cuz thats easier than being married with 3 kids and a full time job. He's just still immature, thats fine, everyone needs time to grow up, mature, etc.I mean I'm not perfect, obviously theres more than just his problem here, I'm not easy to be around, mothering 3 young kids and housekeeping, etc. But he is really turning into an asshole and this divorce is looking more and more relieving. Anyway, views on this widely suggested vacation turning point?