My 16 year old step daughter just moved in with us. It has been hectic as we already have a 2.5 year old and another on the way. My husband and I gave up our bedroom so she could move in (we now sleep in the livingroom). I have always had my suspisions that her problems at school (bad grades and trouble with other kids) were of her own doing but my husband blames his mother (whom she lived with) for her problems. My husband and I have recently become friends with her on Facebook. I see alot of status updates on my page from her that do not appear on my husbands page. I think she is blocking him from seeing her status updates which I would not tolerate if she were my child. The ones I have seen include foul language, complaining about other kids, and complaining about materialistic things her grandmother provided for her (ie, a crappy cell phone, her words). The more I told him about this behavior she started to block me as well. Now we find out she is going on this teen dating site. When he confronted her it was obvious she was blowing him off but he doesnt see it that way. He has a lot of guilt over how she was raised so he acts more like her friend than her parent. She recieved 4 F's last year and he is talking about getting her an Iphone!! I think her internet privlages should be taken away until her grades improve and she can show maturity in her FB postings. I also think she should have to log into her facebook every few weeks with him there so he can see if she is infact blocking him from seeing inappropriate postings of hers. Am I being to harsh? I have 2 children of my own to worry about and I dont want them to see daddy cutting her a bunch of slack when he is very strict with them.