Perhaps blame isn't the right word. But it seems like every decision we make, he puts it on me. Example: his parents will invite us for the weekend. We will decide to just go for a day trip. He will tell his mother "We're just going to come up for the day. Tara (me) doesn't want to spend the night.
or if someone asks him to hang out with them, he'll say "Tara wanted to go out for dinner tonight". He decided with me to go out to eat and where we were going to eat!
I mean, he does defer to what I want to do a lot, but it's not like he doesn't have any say in what we do! We decide on things together. He makes it sound like I boss him around all the time!
The only thing I can come up with is that he doesn't want people to be mad at him so he puts it all on me. It's just irritating because I feel like everyone in his life sees me as this bossy nag machine. I can just see his parents thinking that he would've gone to visit for the whole weekend but his evil wife doesn't like her inlaws.
I mentioned this to him and he was like "But you didn't want to go" and I'm like "but you didn't want to go either!" And his mom has a 30 year history with him, I'm still new and she doesn't have to like me! He said he'd try to stop, but we'll see.