Hey everyone! Hope you are having a great summer.
I am a mommy of two beautiful girls, 4 and 2, and am also expecting triplets!!!! Between preparing for the new babies, buying a new home (the closing is next week), and trying to make the last summer with just the four of us as memorable as possible, I am beyond busy.
Before everything got crazy, I decided it was important to figure out childcare for the fall. Ayden (4) is going to go to the same preschool she went to last year, but Monday-Friday from 9 to 3. Alexis (2) will be going to school Monday, Wednesday, and Friday from 9 to 12. Then I put an ad on Care.com. I decided to find two different people to come to our home, one from 6 AM-12PM and another 12PM-6PM, to start once the babies are born or if I go on bedrest.
I have an interview with four different girls tomorrow. I've already background checked all of them and they all all have two excellent references. I was talking to a friend (who was asking about what I am doing for childcare in the fall by the way!) and she basically said I was a bad mom for spending all that money on childcare.
I'm not trying to dump my kids off on anyone! Of course I would love to have all my kids stay home with me. However, it would be totally unfair if I did that because I wouldn't possibly be able to give them the attention they need while taking care of three babies myself. This is why I thought it'd be good for them to have some sort of regular routine at school. Plus by having an extra set of hands, sometimes I'll be able to spread myself out a little better.
I am putting a lot of effort into making sure I am doing best for them. The girls are enrolled in a really good school that is very nurturing but also teaches them a lot. I am also trying to hire the perfect people to come to our home that will mesh with our family. I planned on having them over throughout the next couple months to make sure it is a comfortable match, even maybe have a day out together.
So, does this make me a bad mom? Should you not hire outside help even if you can't possibly give them all the attention they need? This is a serious question. I just wonder if I'm missing something.