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6 Easy Ways to Create a Bratty, Self-Entitled Child

Posted by on Jul. 31, 2013 at 10:56 AM
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6 Easy Ways to Create a Bratty, Self-Entitled Child

by Julie Ryan Evans

Girl poutingWhen it comes to life, I'm all about ease. If we're talking commutes, cooking, clothing, you name, easier is usually better in my book. When it comes to parenting, however, taking the easy way out can have some hard-knock consequences down the road.

No one wants to listen to the whining, the crying, and complaining, and we all want to spare our children as much heartache as possible. We want to give them every advantage in life, and minimize the bumps in the road for all involved. Unfortunately, our overzealous attempts to pave the way result in spoiled, self-entitled children.

I'll be the first to admit that I've been guilty of many of these things; I think we all are from time to-time. And it's not that any one of them on occasion is going to create a brat, rather it's an accumulation of many over time that can be problematic. See how many of these easy ways out you take as a parent.

1. Making multiple meals

No one wants to see their child go hungry or eat to the drone of complaints every night, but moms who make different meals for everyone are doing no one any favors -- especially themselves.

2. Buying siblings birthday gifts when it's not their birthday

Sure it might avoid some fighting or moping when all of the gifts go to one child, but that's what birthdays are about -- one person's special day.

3. Medals for everyone

Giving kids a medal just for playing on a team is more than just a waste of money, it takes away the significance of a real medal when they actually earn one someday. Sure it's easier than seeing them cry if they don't get one, but they have to learn about losing and winning sometime.

4. Never telling them they're wrong

Sometimes their friend/teacher/another adult is in the right, and your child is wrong. It's that simple, though many parents refuse to acknowledge this and look to blame anyone but their own child.

5. Not making them do chores

Yes, it's easier to just do it ourselves oftentimes, but they're not learning anything if we do. It may take an hour of whining for a 10-minute job, but the lesson is worth it.

6. Bribing them

This is my most common infraction --dangling something in front of them to make them obey. Then I wonder why when I ask them to do something simple they say, "what will you give me?"

What easy ways out do you take as a parent?

 

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sonnyswoman75
by Member on Jul. 31, 2013 at 1:50 PM
I know I am guilty of using bribery and as my son got older it got out of hand.
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Jinxed8
by Silver Member on Jul. 31, 2013 at 2:02 PM

Im guilty of #5 - not making DD do chores for a Looong time.  When I remarried and DH moved in with us he was appaled that DD at age 7 wasn't doing anything in the house besides cleaning her room (and then i would always go behind and redo it) .  Things have changed since then.  She puts away her own laundry, cleans her room, vaccuums her own floor, sometimes she cleans the bathroom etc ...

I'm definitely guilty of #6 - Bribes

And Seriously I'm shocked this is not on the list : 

-> Giving the kids too much un-divided attention.  Then (like my DD) they think everything is always about them all the time.   -

> not having a daily routine / rules - I found out this is key !  Even if you think you're doing them a favor by slacking on the rules and letting them having a later bed time ... Big. Mistake.  It turned my daughter into an evil spawn.

goddess99
by Michelle on Aug. 1, 2013 at 10:31 AM

I did the bribing when it came to haircuts. Each inch cut off equals a dollar at the dollar store. Worked great when she was younger.

This is a good list.

turtlelips
by on Aug. 2, 2013 at 11:39 AM

I only have 1 child so I am guilty of  making different meal if my son doesn't like what I fix the first time and not making him do chores regularly

SlapItHigh
by on Aug. 2, 2013 at 5:02 PM

Sounds about right!

Janet
by Ruby Member on Aug. 3, 2013 at 5:34 PM

Not making them do chores except cleaning their room.

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