Argh, I am so mad!
My sister has 3 kids. Her oldest is from a previous marriage. Her ex gave up all rights so there is no contact at all. She has since remarried and has 2 children with her husband.
When they first got together, I liked my BIL. He seemed to be doing a good job filling the dad role to my nephew. Now that he has his own children, he completely ignores the oldest. While my sister and bil are at work, HIS mother watches the kids. It is the same there. They lavish love and affection on the two little ones but, pretty much ignore my nephew unless it is to get on to him for something.
My nephew has been coming to my house for a week and a half every summer for as long as I can remember. When I went to pick him up, I was told that he couldn't come. Uh, why? My bil told me that my nephew couldn't come because it wasn't fair to the other two kids that he gets to have a fun week and they have to stay home. Uh, they never stay anywhere other than their grannys house and if they stay anywhere else they cry all night. They don't even stay at my parents house.
I am so mad that they treat my nephew like crap and cater to the little ones but then won't let him come for the one week he looks forward to all summer long.
Would you talk to them and try to convince them to let him come, or offer to bring all three of them here?
How would you handle this?
And why does BIL seem to think it is okay to treat him like crap by completely ignoring him while showing nothing but love and affection to his kids? It pisses me off!