Need to VENT about my Husband!! Please Read and give your opinion.
Ok first of all I'm 25 years old and he's 24 years old...we've been together for almost 8 years but married 2 years and have a 5 year old that will be going to Kindergarten in a cple weeks. I'm a stay at home mom and he works 3rds...ANYWHO...he's a very caring person likes to help out his family out and mine which is totally fine. I'm the one that figures out what were spending each week on bills and I write it all down on paper so he can look at it anytime....and I'm not gonna lie we are in debt with credit cards and what not "thank god I cut alllll my cards up a cple years ago" but anyways His mom is married and they both work their house is paid off, her husband drinks and plays lottery everyday it seems like and they both smoke cigs...My mom is single, pays a $500 rent, and all her other bills her self and she smoke cigs "yucky"...But what I don't get is his mom likes to talk to her son "my husband" about how there behind in bills or ugh i'm not gonna have enough money to pay our cell phone bill this month when she knows how he is..He would do anything to help his mom...which I kinda understand...I guess.... she had sugery last week and is off of work for 2 weeks BUT her husband is still working... and of course me and my husband is on her cell phone plain and we pay our share of $136 and so is his sister but her mommy pays for her cell phone that is a SMART PHONE smh... she doesn't work, lives off of the goverment, and won't get a job becuase she doesn't wanna pay rent and she is 23 years old...but anyways this month is horrible with bills, school fees, supplies, clothes, soccer fee, and etc.. But my husband is working 12 hour days just so he can pay the cell phone bill of $300.00!!! Why the hell can't her husband work over!!! and I'm stressing over it because if we pay that we won't be able to get groceries! and last week we couldn't cuz we didn't have any money left after bills which was fine cuz we had a lot of grocerys but this week were getting pretty low..and I keep telling him I'm fine with helping out family BUT we need to make sure we get our bills paid, food, and make sure our daughter has everything she needs like medicine, etc. but noooo everytime I talk with him about this he goes whatever your stupid and calls me names or whatever...and then he goes are you seriously worried about getting food this Friday...if we need to we got plenty of family that lives around us we can just go there and eat..HELL NO i'm not gonna have other people take care of us just because your mom and dad don't know how to save money and pay their own bills...I mean come on ugh I think if we would get divorced it's because of over money and him not caring and not wanting to make sure were good with money before he goes and agrees to pay his moms or sister stuff...which!!! he NEVER talks to me before he agrees to paying his moms bills to get my opinion... I don't know what to do anymore.
I'm just ready to call his mom up and just tell her hey you got to stop telling chris "my husband" your money problems because he will go out of his way to help her and not care if were late on one of our bills or anything..like one time my daughter had a fever we couldn't even buy some pain/fever meds for her cuz we didn't have any money!!!! how sad is that...
I know it's his money blah blah blah but our family comes first thennnn we can help family out IF we can and got the money too. But yeah my single mom can pay her own bills she has only ask us a cple times to help her out but it's mostly to bring some food over when me and my daughter comes over and thats it. doens't make ANY sense at allllll. :-(
Sorry for so long and it's probably so confusing but if you could please tell me what i should do.