I'm just looking for some confirmation that I'm not totally loosing my mind here. My inlaws are visiting from Ireland and staying with my husband and I. We have three girls (twin 6 yr olds and a 2 yr old). I think my in-laws are WAY overstepping their bounds and I don't know how to approach it. They recently confronted me and basically called me a bad wife/mother. I can't tell you how much that upset me....and continues to upset me! I am currently not having the best relationship with my husband. We have had problems for awhile due to his alcoholism. I had tried repeatedly to get him to seek treatment because it has really torn our family apart. But he refuses. My inlaws decided to confront me about why my husband and I don't get along. I tried to calmly explain that I want nothing more than to make things work -- especially in light of us having three beautiful children....but that I just cannot handle him coming home drunk every single day (and in front of our kids who are getting old enough to notice).
Well, my inlaws totally went on the defensive and said that the reason things are not good between us is because I'm not trying hard enough as a wife to make things work. ARGH!! I know that's their son -- and they are going to be behind him because he's family. But, I've explained that I suggested family counseling and even a personal therapist so that my husband could talk about why he drinks so much (since he won't talk to me). But, he won't agree to anything. I'm trying to keep my family together --- and (more immediately) to keep from strangling my visiting in-laws. I just feel like I don't have any support and its making me VERY uncomfortable in my own home at the moment....and I don't know what to do. I think the reason his parents are not concerned about the drinking is because they grew up in a culture where it seemed to be the norm for the men/husbands to drink as much as my husband does. But, I'm American and I can't adapt to him living that lifestyle. Thoughts anyone?