I have been with my boyfriend for three years. Together we have a 11 week old and I have a 7 year old from a previous relationshsip. We just bought a house together and basically we call each other husband and wife. I am always introduced has wife and he claims my 7 year old as his own. he is very close with his family. He has a good relationship with his mom and dad. My issue is his siblings. His sister just moved in with us. She watches the kids until she finds out a job. Basically she doesnt make any attempt to look for a job, which at first bothered me but since she is basically my nanny I am not complaining. My issue is she is up all night and sleeps all hours of the day. She just recently started cleaning up the house. When is brother comes to visit I feel like all I do is clean up after them. my husband is always like if my siblings end up homeless they are moving in.. And in my mind I start screaming. His two younger brothers are huge slobs and are kind of lazy. If I say anything negative about their behavior he blames me and throws me under the bus saying I am complaining about them. Its got to the point where I dont ever want to complain about anything. He complains about our electric bill and water bill is so high and I couldnt imagine what it would be like if his brothers moved in. But I always feel like he will blame me for it. I dont know if this all makes sense but I feel really distant from him now and I always want to tell him how I feel but I feel like he will just make me feel like crap . I know they are his family and I know I will never be as important to him as they are and he will always choose them over me. Maybe I just needed to vent to someone about this.