Question: Who's right?
Total Votes: 11
Okay my husband and I have been fighting a lot lately. First let me say that we have two kids DS is 19 months and DD is 5 weeks. My house gets cluttered I will admit. I'll let things pile up on our Foosball table for a couple of days before I get around to it. And no the laundry is never caught up. I make sure the kitchen gets cleaned and the living room straightened up as much as possible with DS running around. I make lunch and dinner. My DS eats cereal for breakfast and DH and I don't really eat breakfast. Well our arguments have gotten really bad lately like today. He told me he's tired of coming home to a pigsty (again yes cluttered but nothing bad just kids stuff and DH's things he leaves lying where ever he last used it). He said it's disrespectful to him and the kids that the place isn't spotless at all times. Today I hadn't gotten to the kitchen because I've been running around taking care of the kids. Both are sick, of course that doesn't stop DS from running around and playing. Well what has me upset and wondering if I'm really as bad as he says is that he threatened to leave today and take the kids. He said he would leave and I would never be allowed in there lives. This hurts a lot cause I've already lost one child I couldn't stand to lose another and he knows this. He says I'm taking advantage of him and not helping out. He's the one who doesn't want me working. He says since the house isn't spotless and that I don't cook every meal that I'm not contributing at all. He says I'm lazy and just lay around all day. Not true! I take care of and play with the kids and clean what I can when I can. I have been running on very little sleep lately because of DD and I'm sick today. Yet he went off cause the kitchen wasn't clean when he got home from the store. I had loaded most of the dishwasher and had thrown away all trash. I was feeding DD when he walked in and he immediately started in yelling saying how could I be so lazy not to get the kitchen done before he got back. I mean what was I suppose to do? He acts like I should be able to be in two places at once. I'm at my wits end. Any time I say I'm trying about anything his response is "You f****** lying a** b****" How is that a lie? I just don't know what to do anymore he makes me feel so worthless sometimes and inadequate. Yet he has his moments like this morning before he went to the store he went to go get him some coffee. He came back with his coffee but also a cappuccino for me (love those!!!!) and two red roses and a pink one that he had picked for me while he was walking. I don't want to leave him but this emotional roller coaster is killing me. What would you do?