I live in a foreign country where I don't speak the language.
My local friends mentioned to me about the Halloween party/trick or treating at a teacher's place. One of them even asked me to donate money to a gift she is buying for the hostess. I didn't understand much because of the language barrier, I didn't know if the party was private or if everyone is welcomed to the neighborhood, so I went ahead and asked the hostess (teacher) 'How did this trick or treating at your neigbourhood work'?
She said to me that innitially she had planned only her kid's friends to be at the party but then words spread and then now it becomes a big party. She also mentioned that the party is not opened to everyone in the class but if I want to bring the kids I can.
I understand that she only want certain number of people to be there and I want to respect that. I also have other plans for the kids. I only asked her because I thought may be the party is opened to everyone and I don't want the kids to miss it since a lot of the kids they know will be there!
But now I feel like I was a little pushy by asking the teacher about her party:-( Is my feeling rational? I Also wonder why people would ask me to contribute money to some party I wasn't even invited. I wonder why they didn't do they homework before they ask for money?:-(