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my son is doing t ball. Well i run the dugout.Which means i get the kids ready to bat by making sure the have helmets on and go out when it is there turn. When they come back from batting i take bats so as they are not playing with them and hurting each other. I make sure they put helmets away and put on caps and find their gloves so they are ready to go back on the filed when out team is completely done batting.I make sure the ones in the dugout are sitting on the bench and not pushing one another, playing in or throwing the sand (or other objects),or running around. This is not a easy job. There are 11 children ages 4 and 5 and only one of me. Well last night a parent lost it. One child handed me his batting glove when he got back to the dugout. I was holding it while getting other children ready. When another child (this is the child of the parent who lost it) who we will call E came up and tried to take the batting glove from me. So i nicely said thats not yours. Later when it was our teams net time to bat the mom of E came over to give him some water. Well i was trying to get the kids ready to bat and it was E’s turn so i went over to him and gently tugged on the sleeve of his shirt to get his attention to let hime know to go bat since it was his turn. Well E’s mom flipped out and started yelling at me right there in the dugout in front of all the children. “you do not need to touch my son. You should not be pulling on my son.” For which i nicely said i did not touch your child just the sleeve of his shirt and i did not pull him. Then she continued to yell. ” You also should not be yanking things out of my child hands and telling him them they are not his. he was not going to take it. he doesn’t need to take someone else’s glove.” Mind you she was no where near the dug out when the thing with the glove happened she was in the stands and saw from a distance. So she saw what she wanted to see not what really happened. So i told her she did not need to be acting this way in front of all the children. And i let her know i did not take anything from her son or out of his hands. That i was holding it and he tried to take from me and i told him it was not his and he just walked away. Some other parents and grandparents that where sitting right there at the dugout told her so was being disrespectful and rude towards me. And she told them no i was disrespectful to her child and that they saw what happened. They told her yes we did and it did not happen the way you said. At this point i told her if she did not like how i was doing in the dugout then she could do it. She then walked away and did not come back. She sent E’s dad over to get him at the end of the game. I talked to the coach after the game to let him know what happened so he would not just get an angry email from her. He said he was not surprised as he has had other problems with her. Sometimes i wonder what others are thinking. What made her think it was ok to act that way in front of small children? Or act that way in public? I was shaking after wards because i hate confrontation and really disliked being yelled at especially since i did nothing wrong. I have been told be many that there is always that one parent and i guess this time it is her. I hope things go better at tomorrow nights game. Maybe i will be lucky as she wont come. I hope no one else has had such a bad experience at one of their children’s sporting events. I do not feel i did anything wrong. I would love to know what others think though. do you think i did anything wrong?

Sarah      10-16-06                                     Luciano 11-27-08


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by on Oct. 31, 2013 at 1:54 PM
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maribou
by on Nov. 1, 2013 at 2:53 PM

Seriously, tugging on a kids shirt would bother you??  It seems as if your kids must still be young.  If so, just wait ---- tugging on a shirt will seem like nothing.


Quoting SlapItHigh:

If I am to be honest, I think you were wrong to tug on the sleeve of a child. That would bother me. That still doesn't make the other mom's behavior ok though. Sounds like she has issues. If someone tugged on my child's clothing, I would let it go but if it happened more than once, I would contact you privately and ask that you not do that.



maribou
by on Nov. 1, 2013 at 2:54 PM
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Just know that that type of parent only gets worse as the kids get older.

SlapItHigh
by on Nov. 1, 2013 at 3:35 PM
Yes, seriously. No, my kids are not still young. What age is it appropriate to tug on someone's clothing? Would you tug on adults clothing to get their attention or is it only children of a certain age you feel can be treated this way?


Quoting maribou:

Seriously, tugging on a kids shirt would bother you??  It seems as if your kids must still be young.  If so, just wait ---- tugging on a shirt will seem like nothing.



Quoting SlapItHigh:

If I am to be honest, I think you were wrong to tug on the sleeve of a child. That would bother me. That still doesn't make the other mom's behavior ok though. Sounds like she has issues. If someone tugged on my child's clothing, I would let it go but if it happened more than once, I would contact you privately and ask that you not do that.





Pammi86
by Pamela on Nov. 1, 2013 at 3:51 PM

I don't think you did anything wrong! I believe thats whats wrong with parents today!

momtodab
by on Nov. 1, 2013 at 3:59 PM
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I dont see a problem except HER. Some parents are just unreasonable. I had a similar issue recently. I do not give my children candy due to health reason. A mom in his class brought in candy bags for the kids and i politely denied and explained i do not give my children candy...well long story short apparently IM to good to take candy from her! yup she went there. 

Dont worry some ppl are just rude naturally! Should have asked her whp pissed in her Cheerios :D

maribou
by on Nov. 1, 2013 at 5:38 PM


If I wanted to get someone's attention, yes, I might tug on their shirt --- at any age.  It's not like she was saying "I pulled him away from his mother I tugged on his shirt so hard."  

A little tug never hurt anyone.  And we are talking tug not pulling (2 different things).  So, how old are your kids since you say they aren't young?  I guess young to me is under teen age.

 

Quoting SlapItHigh:

Yes, seriously. No, my kids are not still young. What age is it appropriate to tug on someone's clothing? Would you tug on adults clothing to get their attention or is it only children of a certain age you feel can be treated this way?


Quoting maribou:

Seriously, tugging on a kids shirt would bother you??  It seems as if your kids must still be young.  If so, just wait ---- tugging on a shirt will seem like nothing.



Quoting SlapItHigh:

If I am to be honest, I think you were wrong to tug on the sleeve of a child. That would bother me. That still doesn't make the other mom's behavior ok though. Sounds like she has issues. If someone tugged on my child's clothing, I would let it go but if it happened more than once, I would contact you privately and ask that you not do that.







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