I have been happily married for 20 yrs, we have 2 children 7 and 17. I am turning 47 next month and am feeling like I have lived to take care of everybody and need more. I am feeling a major lack of balance in my life. I realized this am, yes lots of women are like me we work, we take care of our families etc etc but I think, and correct me if I am wrong, many women have "me" time, a hobby, the gym, friends etc and Most adults, again correct me if I am wrong, take time to do grown up things - like go out to dinner a movie, with friends, little trips etc. My dh really is my best friend and I knew good and well what i was getting into, he has been a great provider and father and friend but is it wrong of me, at this stage in my life, to want to be treated like a "woman". I would love for him to say "Honey we are going to dinner this friday" or anything, just make some plans, take me out, away from this house and all my chores and the kids and the pets etc. Or just once in a while bring me flowers or perfume. he has never been romantic but anyone can try right? When I brought it up he got defensive and was like "You never liked me for who I am" and "We dont have all kinds of money!" but for your dh to show you appreciation, not just by doing the dishes or mowing the lawn, it doesnt have to cost a lot. To go out alone - sans kids - for a glass of wine is not a big expense. And he would do all of these things if I planned it or reminded him etc etc but that's my point, I plan and take care of everything all the time, when is it ever my turn?