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I have become extremely frustrated with my situation and would like others to shed some light in hopes of finding a good solution. I have a 24 yr old son who lives on his own with his girlfriend who by the way we adore, my son works full time, along with finishing upthe last leg of his degree. With a lot on my sons plate I completely understand he is extremely busy and the opportunity to get together is getting very rare. My main problem is the lack of communication... While I don't expect immediate responses to a voicemail, text ... I think a reasonable amount of time warrants a response back for the respect of the other person. I have gone many days here/there where my son will not respond back. My frustration builds when this happens and I find myself upset with him. Some of these times I have needed an actual answer to something but never receive it. I have explained in a tex message throughout this that I feel disrespected when he does this. I can see people get busy but in my opinion family needs to stay in contact.... He has addressed the fact of this matter and his answer is he just needs to respond back ..... He mentioned that months ago. All I am asking for is a frequent phone conversation to touch base. I will text him asking when a good time to talk is as not to infers with his work,school and he will tell me good times to do so...that time comes/goes with voicemail messages. When we do make actual plans..they 9times out of 10 get cancelled as he will say he forgot about something or someone he had other plans with. I do not want to overwhelm him but just want a relationship with my son. Family has always been important to me and my family....this has only gone on since he moved out in may. He also does this to my 21 year old daughter to reaches out to him frequently. Does anyone have any thoughts on an approach to come to terms with this? Should I begin to discuss with his girlfriend?