So we moved here about 2 years ago, we did so because our oldest daughter is autistic, and the school she was going to was AWEFUL for her, they just ruined every inch of the little progress we had made in the year she was there. She had FINALLY managed to learn to go potty, she was FINALLY starting to say 1-2 words at a time and she was making eye contact, not haveing to keep everything the same way as often and had stopped screming so much. ALL that was Gone by the end of the year she had almost totally regressed. was back in training pants at night, screaming, ocd, etc. so we decided, against better judgment and advice and common reason, after seraching tirlessly, and without success of finding another nearby school with a GOOD program for her to move across the state, where his sister lived and had found a school. We knew when we went that he would have to find a job - he was leaving a high paid and high postion job for Nothing- find a home and start ALL OVER. But for Emi, we would give the shirts on our backs and cross the world if need be. But as time went on, it proved harder than we expected, the school has been Awesome for her! and he found a job but it was a quarter of what he had before, and it was aweful on him, the eviroment was terrible the clients, aweful to him and NO raises or promotions were offered in that job.
OK I know this is loooong, bare with me, K? I am getting there. lol
Times were REALLY hard. we could barely keep the roof over our heads and food on the table. We Never asked for help except during Christmas one year to get our girls a few gifts. Then we had dd2, unplanned but Not unwanted. Getting a little tighter. But ok, I nursed her for the first 9 months, breast is best on baby and pockets and all that, ya know. So no prob. Well everyone I knew said 'well, your are nursing so you dont have to worry about BC. Right? WRONG! lol. I could not take bc because it alway messed me up, but I figured, nursing, i did not have to worry. 1 Week After she weaned herself, I found out I was SEVERAL weeks preggo! What!? Whew! ok, well we still managed to streeetch it.
But the job he had was causeing him so much stress he started having chest pains, gained 15 lbs, became depressed, it was time to get out. So finally he started looking else where and a friend, -a Lady, eh hem! =/ lol- gives him a number and tells him they are hiring. A company in the field for which he actually went to school, building computer! Great wrok, but... even thought te new company seems great, he is starting at the bottom, a pay cut. At least there are raises and promotions, but for now we are in over our heads. and then Last night. The car BROKE!!! $300 for a new part when we don't even know where we are going to get money for food and rent this month! So car part OR food/rent? Also that means we can not get to the appointment we had for today to sign up for the christmas program for our children. That means No gifts, No dinner for Christmas this year, because we can't afford gifts or a special dinner this year.
And also, Now 2 years later, we have still not managed to get our house, the credit he worked so hard on to boost so we could buy a house was shot when we fell further and further behind. And of course we don't have the money for a down payment anyhow. But If the house was the least of our worries it would be ok.
So anyway my question is this? Am I wrong to reach out and ask for help from our community? I am SO ashamed to have to do so, but I have No family here, my only and best friend is strugging herself, she tries to support us emtionally but she lives so far away. My only sister is deployed in the navy but can't help financially either. My brother is so far into his drugs and drinking and gangs, I have not spoken with him in years. And I was 'orphaned' 3 years ago when my dad passed. His mom helped us out Alot but now she has alztimers and has to be cared for, so no help there. I don't know what else to do.
I have gotten gov help as far as food/medicaid, but with the ecconomy getting worse they have cut our food allowance down to almost nothing.
So, is it OK to ask for help? Or would that be pathetic? I don't know what else to do. This is what I was planning to put in my Ad on CL:
Help for a family in need