Hi everyone - I need some advice and I know there is no clear cut answer but I guess I need to vent. I have an almost 7 month old daughter and have been married for 9 months. I got pregnant very early on in the relationship and because we both did want marriage and children in general, we chose to marry. I got pregnant 4 months into our relationship. The past year n a half or so has been ridden with great times - including the birth of our amazing daughter...and horrible times. I feel like I have a best friend and enemy in one. I do not feel as if my feelings are validated, I feel like maybe there are parts of him that don't want me to shine or have any attention. For example when I was pregnant and working and tired...he was working and tired too. Like implying it was the same or takig away from what i was going through. Or recently I got a bad cold and he suddenly was sick too...competition kinda? He can be mean and hit below the belt when fighting and has hurt me a lot with his words. So whats good? He's a good dad, does show his love and affection in his own way and does seem to support dreams and aspirations of mine. I guess what I'm getting at is - to all the married folk out there -- is having such a duality normal? I have heard both sides. Like u can't expect ur significant other to be everything - that's why u need other people n I've heard that its not normal or good. I know in my head what I want marriage to be but am uncertain if I am being too idealic. Like unsure I'm ready to leave or dissolve our family right now but I do feel like I'm pulling away emotionally. I've tried to talk to him but he gets defensive or I feel gives me lip service telling me what I want to hear just so we move on. He is a forget things n keep them in the past and I'm a person that needs real resolution before I do that. I am deeper I guess. I'm into fitness and eating healthy and he really isn't...we tried therapy but I've gotten so angry in there at him and his denial that I've been unable to continue. Please help. Is there anything to even save or should I go on with my life and move on?
on Nov. 29, 2013 at 1:46 PM