Recently my 3 year old has been increasingly defiant. His dad and I are divorced so there is no consistency between householes. I keep things consistent when I have my son. When he gets a time out he tells me no, refuses to stay in the place where he was put. He hits and kicks and punches. This is all new within the past few weeks. He has also started sucking on his hands. If I ask him to do something, such as put on his socks, he flat out refuses and tells me to do it. I'm not sure what to do with him. Oh and he will also pee his pants when put in time out, the last time I made him sit there until his timout was done with wet pants. How do I get him to listen and go back to the sweet boy he once was?