Ok so this is a little bit of a long story but ill try to make it short. I have been with my kids father for 9 years. He has a sister and 6 years ago she had a little girl. Well ever since the little girl was born i have been witnessing her abuse. Her mom is a drug addict, thief, compulsive liar and many more things. Well i first starting calling DCF when she was 2 because her mother would leave her at my inlaws for hours at a time to get high then she would get home unable to take care of her child. She ended up moving out because she thought my mother in law called DCF. We heard the worker came around and after a month closed the case because she felt there was no problem even though they were homeless and going from house to house. About a year after that I called again because the little girl went up to my inlaws house was playing and when we went in the living room she had a Barbie doll in between her legs with her pants and underwear down sleeping. I called DCF then also and a worker was sent out, sent the mom to a drug program and when she finished 6weeks later closed the case. And played the recording of my call to the mother causing her to not let us see the child. Well about 6 months ago I was allowed to bring the child to my home to play with her cousins (which the mom okayed). The little girl told me that where she was staying (which is the 14th home the child has lived in) there was a lady that was touching her in her private area but mommy said it was ok because if they had to leave that house they would have nowhere to live. So again I called DCF they investigated and almost took the child away and decided not to because my FIL was there and he was too scared to say the truth and told them she was a great mother and this would never had happened so again the case was closed. I deffenetly let him have it. Also several of the people she has lived with have also called because she had no job and could not provide for the child, was bringing men in and out to support her drug habit and on one occasion lost her child outside because she didn't know she went outside. The school has also called DCF because the girls clothes were disgusting and once she went to open her book bag and 3 roaches fell out. Well this past Monday her mother dropped her of at school with a fever and with an ear infection. The nurse could not get a hold of her mother so they called my in-laws. They went and picked her up and the child was in pain crying so my MIL called DCF and they told her to take the child to the ER and they would send someone out the next day because the situation wasn't an emergency. The ER finally got a hold of her(only because she had been there the week before with the little girl for pneumonia) so instead of coming down she called my MIL and told her to call her when they got out. Well after that she left her at my in-laws for 3 days (which was probably for the best anyway) and came to get her when she found out that DCF was looking for her again saying it was us who called and that we would never the little girl again. I don't know what else to do. I feel like the very people that are suppose to protect her have failed her. I also let my in-laws have it because they could of done something about this year's ago. I rather see that girl with foster parents then her own mother. If anyone has been through or seen a situation like this please give me some advice I don't know what else to do.
Update: My MIL called me today to let me know that the DCF worker contacted her yesterday to advice her that she should attend some foster parent parenting classes and be prepared to take custody of the child for 'the long haul'. I don't know what that means but I told her ill take the classes with her also. Im not sure that we should get our hopes up but its a step closer and we've never had a worker contact us like this.
on Jan. 17, 2014 at 10:38 PM