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Because I am a foster parent

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Because I am a foster parent

You create your precious bundle of joy while I try to recreate a lost childhood, because I am a foster parent.

You have baby showers and well wishes while you create the perfect nursery, I wonder how to help them cope with another new bedroom, because I am a foster parent

You gaze into their eyes for the first time and feel an amazing rush of eternal love and devotion; I gaze desperately into their eyes searching for a remnant of a soul that has already weathered a terrible storm, because I am a foster parent.

You mold them and guide them day by day forming their little personalities into the amazing person that you know they will be, I pick up the pieces of a tattered being so broken that they are little more than a wild thing, because I am a foster parent.

You approach every milestone with gusto knowing that your child is the smartest child to ever walk this earth; I watch each milestone pass by hoping that they will soon catch up, because I am a foster parent.

You pray every night that the Lord will keep them safe from any harm; I pray every night that the courts don’t return them to the living hell that they have already endured, because I am a foster parent.

You teach them right from wrong by leading by example and providing endless love, I erase years of fear and teach them that love doesn’t hurt, because I am a foster parent. 

You hold your child in your arms as they drift peacefully off to sleep, I hold my child in my arms while they withdraw from whatever substance they were addicted to before they were born, because I am a foster parent. 

You pick up toys and wipe up spills while your child looks at you sheepishly and whispers “I’m sorry.” I pick up a child from the fetal position on the floor; so fearful from spilling their milk that they are shaking and silent, because I am a foster parent. 

You drop your child off for play dates and birthday parties; I drop my child off for play therapy and family visits, because I am a foster parent. 


You explain that he looks like your side of the family; I explain that if they smile they look like an angel. I said if, not when, because I am a foster parent. 



You attend dance recitals and football games cheering at the top of your lungs shouting “that’s my kid out there!!” I attend court dates and meetings praying that I don’t hear re-unification or 6 month extension whispering “please will somebody listen to me?” Because I am a foster parent


You celebrate each holiday trying to top the last, I celebrate each holiday not knowing if it’s their first and hoping it’s not their last, because I am a foster parent.

You tuck in your little ones wishing them sweet dreams, assuring that there are no monsters under the bed, I pray that they will sleep tonight knowing that they’ve already seen monsters and they weren’t under the bed, because I am a foster parent. 

You look to their futures and you see college and endless opportunity, I look to their future and see a cycle that needs to be broken before anymore damage is done, because I am a foster parent. 

You see yourself growing old with your child by your side. I wonder if they will be taken away before they know just how much I love them, because I am a foster parent. 

You smile and wave as your child grins out of the window while they travel off to summer camp for the week; wondering how you’ll sleep not knowing how they are. I smile and wave choking back the tears as their faces are pressed against the window of the county car wondering how I’ll live not knowing where they are. Because I am a foster parent

You talk with your spouse about if you want another child, not knowing if you have enough love for more than one perfect angel in your life. I answer the phone when the social worker calls and without hesitation say “YES” when they ask if I can help another angel with broken wings, because I AM a foster parent!
~JW

by on Jan. 22, 2014 at 2:35 AM
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KW1280
by Member on Jan. 22, 2014 at 10:51 AM
1 mom liked this
Yeah I cried
lovinmykiddo07
by Member on Jan. 22, 2014 at 11:03 AM
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The mom I talked to yesterday was telling me about that program but I had forgot what it was called. Thanks,x

Quoting Willie24622:

It's a great thing to do. If you don't think that you can handle fostering there are a lot of other ways to get involved. You might want to start by volunteering in the CASA program near your home. It gives you the opportunity to see what the foster care system is like before you jump in feet first. 

Quoting lovinmykiddo07:


Quoting Willie24622: It is the most wonderfully difficult thing you will ever do.

I was telling her that I really wanted to foster, possibly adopt. I want to make a positive change in a child's life. But it would be so hard to let go.

I get attached to my foster dogs, whether it be a couple days or a couple months & I bawl my eyes out even tho I know they are going to a great home. I just can't imagine how much stronger that feeling would be with a child. But then I just have to remind myself why I'm doing it. 


craftymom2b
by Member on Jan. 22, 2014 at 11:10 AM
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Beautiful!!!!!!! I had to send this to my mother in law who is a foster parent. Thank you! This is well written.

nana776
by Member on Jan. 22, 2014 at 11:16 AM

Thank you so much for posting that. I was one of those foster kids and I have a couple of great foster parents to thank for doing all those things for me. Is it okay if I print that out and keep it?

Willie24622
by Member on Jan. 22, 2014 at 12:56 PM

ABSOLUTELY!!!!!! I'm so glad that you had a better experience than most. 

Quoting nana776:

Thank you so much for posting that. I was one of those foster kids and I have a couple of great foster parents to thank for doing all those things for me. Is it okay if I print that out and keep it?


nana776
by Member on Jan. 22, 2014 at 1:34 PM

I did have some bad experiences, but I just try to focus on the good ones. 

Quoting Willie24622:

ABSOLUTELY!!!!!! I'm so glad that you had a better experience than most. 

Quoting nana776:

Thank you so much for posting that. I was one of those foster kids and I have a couple of great foster parents to thank for doing all those things for me. Is it okay if I print that out and keep it?



Willie24622
by Member on Jan. 22, 2014 at 1:39 PM

Good for you xoxo

Willie24622
by Member on Jan. 22, 2014 at 10:03 PM

Thank you all again for your kind words. I wrote this after a particularly frustrating court date with one of our kids. I hadn't planned on sharing it but my S/O encouraged me to do so. It was really healing for me to explain my prospective to some of our friends who didn't understand what we were going through. 

mindful23
by on Jan. 23, 2014 at 12:12 AM
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I so can relate. Well written.
celestegood
by Gold Member on Jan. 23, 2014 at 12:43 AM
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Wow. I can't imagine doing what you do. You are an angel among us :) You do make a difference. Thank you, on behalf of those kids you help.

Quoting Willie24622:

Thank you all again for your kind words. I wrote this after a particularly frustrating court date with one of our kids. I hadn't planned on sharing it but my S/O encouraged me to do so. It was really healing for me to explain my prospective to some of our friends who didn't understand what we were going through. 

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