I hope to hear some good feedback; good or bad.
I am very new to step parenting. We have two of my husband's 4 boys living with us. When we married, they moved into the home I own. It is a 2 bedroom condo, 2 bath but shared shower/tub. I give this information for a reason.....lol
I want them to feel like the home is their home as well. The youngest who is 15 has been through some difficulties in school and past relaships of his farthers. So I have compassion and empathy for him. My heart breaks for some of the things he has gone through.
That aside, he has no respect for the house or the contents of the house that are mine. Sometimes I feel like I harp on them all of the time, and that is NOT my nature. I am told I worry too much about the lttle things. Here are a few things that get, and continue to be under my skin. I would love to hear comments; good or bad.
Putting and leaving dirty ball caps on the kitchen table
leaving shoes/ear buds/footballs and other things lying around in the living room after being told over and over to put them away.
45 minute showers, yes you read that correctly. I am showered, dressed and ready to leave the house in less time that it taks the youngest to shower; let alone get ready.
They have no sense of urgency
No table manners. I had to get up from the table the other night because the youngest would NOT use a napkin. He used his has to clean his mouth or would stick his tongue out to get something off his mouth. I repeatedly told him to use a napkin. We were to go to a friends house that they had not been too before, the following day for football and dinner. I told him that if he couldn't use proper table manners he was not going because I would not have him eating at a table of 20 people eating like he does at home.
Leaving filled drinking glasses on the floor by the chair.
Leaving shoes/shorts etc in the floor in the living room.
When the garbage is taken out they will put it on the deck instead of taking it directly to the dumpster when taken out of the can. One night it was raining so they left the bag in the kitchen. I woke the next morning to the trash being strewn on the floor by the dog.
I pray for patience, understanding and guidence each day. They have both had some hard times and I understand how those experiences can affect someone. However, that doesn't negate manners and responsibilities.
It has gotten much better, but the leaving things out and the manners get under my skin.
Thank you in advance for any comments, questions or concerns.