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My husband deslikes me after i hv put on weight!Does he love me!

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My baby girl will be 1 yr old this jan 26th and we all r super happy and excited about it.but 

my husband is not happy with me.He keeps telling me i hv put on lots of weights.he tells me 

that my thighs,stomach are huge.He sometimes make fun of me.Before pregnancy i was 130lb and

now i am 155lb.So when we go out together i feel that he is ashamed to take me out coz i look

fat.Now adays i feel so ugly.He is true that i hv put on weight,but i am comfortable at this weight

but he says he doesnt like to see me like this fat.

by on Jan. 23, 2014 at 5:46 PM
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momto3B
by on Jan. 27, 2014 at 7:36 AM

Yes, 25lbs is a LOT of weight and the OP has not been pregnant for a year. Please stop making it sound like losing 25 lbs after a baby is akin to splitting the atom. Eat better and take the baby for a rocking walk around the block twice a day. Lay on the floor and do "baby lifts". There are untold workout videos available at the library accessible for free. 

No everyone is NOT the same. If she likes the weight or has no interest in losing it, great, that is a choice. but is sound like she needs to either jettison the fat or the husband.  In this case, she should lose the 200lbs first and who knows, the extra 25 might come off on it's own. 

Quoting FlutterbyMom3: Do you really think everyone is the same? Everyone loses weight the same? No they don't.
Even if she is 25 pounds heavier, it's weight she gained from pregnancy that she hasn't lost yet. Who are you to say how long it should take her to lose it?


Quoting momto3B:

How else does one get fat if not by eating poorly?   25 lbs is A LOT of weight. How did that happen?? Chasing a baby is a LOT of work, nothing that should make one gain weight. And BTW, I said he was a jerk in his approach. 

Quoting FlutterbyMom3:

A husband should be supportive, not make jokes or comments about it.

Who says she's eating like a slob?




Quoting momto3B:

Actually, I totally disagree with this. I think he was a real jerk in his approach, but gaining weight with a child is in no way a necessity, it is a choice. There is NO need to eat like a slob just because you are pregnant and unless you have a nannty and a personal trainer, it is a bad idea. 

He IS a jerk, but I would not be happy if my DH got fat and stayed that way for a year. I was back in my size 0 jeans 2 weeks after I gave birth. 

Quoting FlutterbyMom3: He's an asshole.


Ask him how much weight he would have put on carrying a child.




baileymarie723
by Member on Jan. 28, 2014 at 10:43 AM
There could be other circumstances that have made it hard to lose the weight after baby. I know after having a c-section it hurt to try do any form of exercise for over a year. I was cleared to do anything I wanted after 6 weeks, but it even hurt to walk at some moments, so trying to do real physical exercise put in in tears. During that time I ate healthy, and I still gained some weight after ny daughter was born. Regardless if he is treating her like crap because she gained some weight he is breaking his vows of "for better or for worse".

Quoting momto3B:

Actually, I totally disagree with this. I think he was a real jerk in his approach, but gaining weight with a child is in no way a necessity, it is a choice. There is NO need to eat like a slob just because you are pregnant and unless you have a nannty and a personal trainer, it is a bad idea. 

He IS a jerk, but I would not be happy if my DH got fat and stayed that way for a year. I was back in my size 0 jeans 2 weeks after I gave birth. 

Quoting FlutterbyMom3: He's an asshole.
Ask him how much weight he would have put on carrying a child.

Jinxed8
by Silver Member on Jan. 28, 2014 at 10:53 AM

he's an ass, I agree.  I'm very sorry you have to go through this

Janet
by Ruby Member on Jan. 29, 2014 at 9:03 AM

He isn't a very nice person to say these things to you. When I married my DH after my third child I gained a lot of weight. I just kept gaining. I just lost 100lbs. He still loved me. Never put me down. I just lost my weight after 23 years. Lol. Sure he is happy. But loved me either way.

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