My daughter is 4 and I am concerned that she is startign a eating disorder. She is obbsessed with not getting "fluffy".
This past year her grandmother has been trying to lose weight- she is a good sized woman and this is to benifit her health. She does not inforce a diet when my daughter comes to visit, nothing like that. Her boyfriend is also trying to lose weight right now for his health as well. He is a larger size man and this will be good for him.My daughter has even called me fluffy- I'll admit I have a pooch but I am not a large size.
I have noticed that there are nights that I am having to sit with her long after everyone is up from teh table and coax her to eat her dinner- and she'll take these small bites like mouse bites and chew and chew the same piece over and over.
Finally last night after and hour of trying to get her to eat a piece of chicken, a piece of pizza[it was pizza night} I asked her don't you like pizza? "yes mommy but I don't want to be like Papa James." James is her grand ma's boyfriend. She then took her hands and held them far out in front of her to make her tummy look big. i breathed for a moment and tried to think of how to handle this with a 4 year old.
Honestly I still want to talk to her about this but for the moment I asked her 'are you a girl?" yes"is he a boy or a man?" "old man" 'ok fair enough and are you young or old?" "silly mommy I am young!" " ok then don't you think him being older, and a man means you are less likely gonna look like him?" she took another bite of her pizza and thought about it. " I guess so." I told her not to worry about such things that she is young and that it will not happen to her to enjoy life and not worry about the what ifs....
it concerns me that she fears this at such a young age. now no i do not do pizza and junk food every night- we do have alot of healthy meals and once a week we get a "easy' meal. fruit and veggies are strongly encouraged in the house, in-fact her favorite thing to eat is broccoli. neither my husband or I are doing any kind of diets where only certain food is allowed. he is trying to loose weight but he is cutting back on his portions - instead of large amounts and 2 plates he has cut back to 2 plates of regular portions.
how do i address this with her, is there anything to be concerned about?