Some of you may have seen my posts on CM about dh ex that is in rehab for drugs. Although she and I have not seen eye to eye and have not gotten along when she came to dh and I about getting help we put it all aside and helped her get into rehab. Even though she has no legal rights to my sks we still helped her just because she is still a human being trying to get help. Well, one of the things that she had to do in her counseling was to write letters to the three people that she hurt the most. I knew that one of the letters would be to sd (and it was) and the second would be to ss (and it was) but I was not sure who her third letter would be to...until it came in the mail Saturday. It was to me. She was telling me that she was sorry for everything and that when she did all of the things she did to me to try to mess up my marriage that she was high when she did it and how sorry she was. She told me that there were things that I was not aware of. She told me about times she would call dh and offer "things" to him for money to get her fix. She told me that she knew that I was the closest thing to a friend that she had and that she knows she messed up and wanted to fix it. She told me that she would do anything to make things right. I was shocked but decided to write her back with what I wanted her to do to make things right. I told her that I wanted her to get off the drugs and get her head together. I want her to get a job and get on her feet. I want her to go back to college like she had always talked about. I told her that I wanted her to show me she could be a better person. When she shows me that I would forget all that has happened. I told her that I had forgiven her the day she went into rehab but that I would start with a clean slate when she could do those things. She has put me and dh and the kids through hell but if she can admit her mistakes I can be the bigger person and start new too.