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I have a 2 year old son and I just found out I am pregnant! I thought this would be a joyus experience.. but it turns out.. I didn't have anyone spitting cheerios on my couch the first time around.. Or yelling NO at me all day..  and I also didn't have anyone throwing their sippy cup at me from across the room. Things are WAY different this time and controlling my frustration on top of my hormones is turning out to be rather complicated. Is there a trick or something moms of 1+ use to stay sane?? Am I missing something? This is Elias from a while back. Makes my <3 :)

by on Feb. 20, 2014 at 12:02 AM
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Jinxed8
by Silver Member on Feb. 20, 2014 at 4:31 PM

 that's because he's testing you constantly to see what he can get away with - do not underestimate your child.  They are smart !  With your sister or his father he probably knows what passes and what doesn't !

Quoting Jaclyn17:

He is such a fun little boy but SUPER energetic. Not that it's a problem to have energy but we are cutting out all sugar possible for him. He usually has a good temper and is pretty calm.. but for some reason when I discipline him he does NOT like it. He will choose to sit in time out rather than just say, "Sorry" or "Yes Mam". He does fine with his dad and even my sister that watches him for me often. Is it because I am mom or do we have to figure out our own way to handle them? 

 

smashleigh.
by on Feb. 20, 2014 at 4:36 PM
I have an only, as well..so here's another bump - and some good luck!

Quoting johnny4ever: I have a only so here is a bump for others to answer.
Jaclyn17
by on Feb. 20, 2014 at 5:46 PM

Indeed it does! I am positive that he knows what "no" means because he says it to me sometimes. Time outs seem effective and alone time in his room does also. He knows what is right and wrong because quite often he will do something and clap for himself! haha Then of course I will tell him how awesome it was. Staying calm is one of the hardest things I have had to learn being a mom. I figured out the more calm I am the more calm he will be. I just need to learn how to be the authority figure. I started reminding him the other day that I am the Boss and What the boss says goes. That has helped some because I will ask him (when he is doing good and happy) who the boss is and he will smile and say, "mommy!!!" Thank you so much! I will be practicing getting a hold on things ALL day from now on. Hopefully he will notice the increase in consistency. :)

Quoting Jinxed8:

 Well you are testing my memory here because DD is now 10 years old.  But I remember that she knew very early on what "No" meant.  Also push positive reinforcement, when he corrects himself reward him.  It doesn't have to be anything big, I did stickers with DD or a treat, or just applaud, give him a hug.  (like if he screams, tell him "No, don't yell at mommy"  if he then asks nicely, reward)

I don't know how you go about your parenting.  If my DD threw the sippy cup at me I would say a firm NO, then the sippy cup would dissapear, then of course your kid will probably go into a screaming fit, what I used to do with DD in a similar situation was keep asbsolute calm on the outside, pick her up and bring her in her room, close the door and walk away or wait outside the door ( I also had one of those handle blockers so she could not open the door from the inside) until she calmed down.

Kids pick up bad habits VERY quickly.  You have to keep this up, always.  Trust me, when DD was 6 her father and I split and I let a lot of things slide.  Now that she's 10, I have a lot of dammage control to do ! And it's much harder when they are older. 

Hope this helps a little ?

Quoting Jaclyn17:


Quoting Jinxed8:

I ony had one as well - and never wanted a second one.  However, my DD never spit cherios, throw her sippy cup or scream her head off at me.  Mama, you have to put boundaries and rules with your baby !!! Or there will be hell to pay later !!

How does a normal day go for you two? What do I do when I start to lose my patience? What kind of rules are everyday all day rules that you set to keep control? ANY advice or tips would be more than appreciated!



Jaclyn17
by on Feb. 20, 2014 at 5:50 PM

Whew.. moming is exhausting! He is very smart and tricky too! Sometimes I will be sitting in the living room and he will disappear into the dining room so I will go see what he is up to, and as soon as I turn into the dining room he will bolt out and go sit in the EXACT spot I was sitting. lol Will I hit a point where I will officially just KNOW what I'm doing or is parenting going to be that lifelong battle with yourself of "WHAT DO I DO!" 

Quoting Jinxed8:

 that's because he's testing you constantly to see what he can get away with - do not underestimate your child.  They are smart !  With your sister or his father he probably knows what passes and what doesn't !

Quoting Jaclyn17:

He is such a fun little boy but SUPER energetic. Not that it's a problem to have energy but we are cutting out all sugar possible for him. He usually has a good temper and is pretty calm.. but for some reason when I discipline him he does NOT like it. He will choose to sit in time out rather than just say, "Sorry" or "Yes Mam". He does fine with his dad and even my sister that watches him for me often. Is it because I am mom or do we have to figure out our own way to handle them? 



Jinxed8
by Silver Member on Feb. 21, 2014 at 9:33 AM

 Staying calm and cool IS the hardest thing, but to this day, it's the thing that works the best with my DD, when I "shut down" stop talking, or walk away DD knows that actually means I'm really mad.  And it's worst than if I yell at her.

Quoting Jaclyn17:

Indeed it does! I am positive that he knows what "no" means because he says it to me sometimes. Time outs seem effective and alone time in his room does also. He knows what is right and wrong because quite often he will do something and clap for himself! haha Then of course I will tell him how awesome it was. Staying calm is one of the hardest things I have had to learn being a mom. I figured out the more calm I am the more calm he will be. I just need to learn how to be the authority figure. I started reminding him the other day that I am the Boss and What the boss says goes. That has helped some because I will ask him (when he is doing good and happy) who the boss is and he will smile and say, "mommy!!!" Thank you so much! I will be practicing getting a hold on things ALL day from now on. Hopefully he will notice the increase in consistency. :)

Quoting Jinxed8:

 Well you are testing my memory here because DD is now 10 years old.  But I remember that she knew very early on what "No" meant.  Also push positive reinforcement, when he corrects himself reward him.  It doesn't have to be anything big, I did stickers with DD or a treat, or just applaud, give him a hug.  (like if he screams, tell him "No, don't yell at mommy"  if he then asks nicely, reward)

I don't know how you go about your parenting.  If my DD threw the sippy cup at me I would say a firm NO, then the sippy cup would dissapear, then of course your kid will probably go into a screaming fit, what I used to do with DD in a similar situation was keep asbsolute calm on the outside, pick her up and bring her in her room, close the door and walk away or wait outside the door ( I also had one of those handle blockers so she could not open the door from the inside) until she calmed down.

Kids pick up bad habits VERY quickly.  You have to keep this up, always.  Trust me, when DD was 6 her father and I split and I let a lot of things slide.  Now that she's 10, I have a lot of dammage control to do ! And it's much harder when they are older. 

Hope this helps a little ?

Quoting Jaclyn17:

 

Quoting Jinxed8:

I ony had one as well - and never wanted a second one.  However, my DD never spit cherios, throw her sippy cup or scream her head off at me.  Mama, you have to put boundaries and rules with your baby !!! Or there will be hell to pay later !!

How does a normal day go for you two? What do I do when I start to lose my patience? What kind of rules are everyday all day rules that you set to keep control? ANY advice or tips would be more than appreciated!

 

 

 

othermom
by Silver Member on Feb. 21, 2014 at 10:15 AM

There are tough times(months, lol)it does get better

wickedfunmom
by Member on Feb. 21, 2014 at 10:40 AM

Congratulations!! 

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