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What Bad Qualities Have Your Kids Picked Up From YOU?

Posted by on Feb. 24, 2014 at 12:52 PM
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5 Bad Mom Habits That Are Messing Up Our Kids

by Sunny Chanel

The other day I walked into my daughter’s room, wait, scratch that, I couldn’t actually walk into my daughter’s room; it was way too messy. There are clothes strewn all over the floor, dolls in various of states of undress were scattered all over the place like victims of a deadly hurricane, and I swear I saw something moving under her bed.

Now, as much as I would love to blame her slovenly ways on someone anyone else, I know the truth. It is all my fault. I am not a cleaner, a neat-freak or even one to hang up their coat. I am a slob. And now my daughter, thanks to me, is too. Of course she is -- they keep telling us little kids are sponges, right?

This got me thinking, what other bad habits are we passing on to our children? What else do we complain about in our kids that is really OUR faults? I asked my fellow moms about what bad habits their kids have inherited:

As a parent being bossy is part of the job. But what happens when you kid inherits that bossiness? A war of wills, that’s what. This can become more and more intense with frequent bossy-offs with no one being declared the winner.

As one friend said, her daughter acts like, “everything is the absolute end of the world,” but that's what happens when you're a little dramatic yourself. And with kids, it’s usually the most MUNDANE thing that are the end of the world like that you played the Demi Lovato version of “Let It Go” instead of the one by Idina Menzel.

Language is one of those big things that children learn from us parents from pitch to cadence to swearing not unlike a sailor. If you are a frequent user of the “s-word,” “f-word,” or more obscure and/or colorful language, do not be surprised if your kids whip out one of those nuggets of naughtiness on the playground shocking young and old alike.

Nail Biting
Children don’t just get our physical traits thanks to genetics, but they pick up on our physical behavior traits by observation. Habits like nail biting, when kids are exposed to them often, become a “normal” thing to do. These habits manifest themselves in all sorts of habits, but trying to stop for the sake of the kids can be a huge challenge.

While my daughter inherited my slovenliness, she also acquired a healthy portion of smart-ass-ness from my sarcastic, yet hilarious, husband. The key with smart-ass-ness and kids is teaching them when and when NOT to use it ... say when dealing with the school principal or a cop.

What bad qualities have your kids picked up from you?

by on Feb. 24, 2014 at 12:52 PM
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by on Feb. 24, 2014 at 1:08 PM
My ds bites his nails. My odd is very shy. All of my kids have my stubbornness.
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by Michelle on Feb. 24, 2014 at 1:11 PM

I would have to say swearing.

by Bronze Member on Feb. 24, 2014 at 8:58 PM

My children are all going to be smart asses, but I've never considered it one of my "bad" qualities. 


(Also I tend to think it is just as much genetic as "learned.")

Claire Wait

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by Member on Feb. 25, 2014 at 6:19 AM
Procrastination. I am way guilty.
by Platinum Member on Feb. 25, 2014 at 9:14 AM


by on Feb. 25, 2014 at 9:20 AM

Picking his nails

by Gold Member on Feb. 25, 2014 at 9:56 AM
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  1. Growling ... LOL  when I'm at wit's end I tend to do a growl-like sound and I've noticed that my daughter does it too. 
  2. She's a master manipulator ; I was the same way when I was little. 
  3. Getting her nails done is becoming quite the little addiction this she TOTALLY takes from me.  All her life she's seen me with manicured nails and feet.  I have to wait for the weekends when she goes to her dad's to get mine done otherwise she would cost me a FORTUNE monthly.  I do bring her a few times a year with me.
by Member on Feb. 25, 2014 at 10:03 AM
Definitely my smart assness
by on Feb. 25, 2014 at 10:11 AM
My son bites his nails, funny thing is I haven't bitten them at home since before he was born
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by Bronze Member on Feb. 25, 2014 at 10:31 AM
I am a bit over excited at times and a bit sassy. All of my kids arr also a bit sassy. Okay. That last is a bit of a twist of truth. They all are a LOT sassy. They think they are god's gift to words. And, makes sure everyone knows it too. lol
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