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Baby shower for grandma to be. Sweet or selfish?

Posted by on Apr. 8, 2014 at 7:02 PM
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Trendy Baby Showers For Grandmas: Sweet Or Selfish?

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Just as women of a certain age dread being asked, "So, when are you going to have a baby?"-- older women dread being asked by their grandkid-consumed peers when their selfish children will finally grant them the gift that is grandparenthood.

So what do you do when the time finally comes and you're told by your son or daughter that you will be getting a grandchild? You throw yourself a party, of course. "Grandma showers" as they are being called, are one of the newest trends to hit the baby market, as The Huffington Post reported earlier this month.

Yes, now grandmothers-to-be are being feted as much as expectant mothers themselves, in elaborate showers complete with decorations, cakes, and even games.

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And with a growing number of grandparents becoming caregivers to their young grandchildren and providing their babysitting services, grandma showers can be a time for parents to stock up on childcare necessities. “With more and more baby boomer parents taking on the role of nanny to their grandchildren, they too need a car seat, stroller, high chair and other gear that can cost hundreds, even thousands, of dollars,” The Bump's Rebecca Dolgin told The Huffington Post.

But not everyone sees it as such a practical matter. Etiquette experts and expectant mothers alike aren't amused. "Call me a selfish pregnant lady, but me having a baby is about me and my baby, not about my mom," wrote BabyZone blogger Lyz Lenz. Quite right, Lyz.

After all, aren't baby showers supposed to be one last hurrah for pregnant women? It's one of the few celebrations other than your wedding where you get to be the center of attention. Besides, after hours of labor, when your bundle of joy arrives, you can look forward to sleep deprivation, diaper duty, and the pressure to lose the baby weight. So plenty of pampering, doting, and celebration seem well-deserved.

Other than stealing the mom-to-be's thunder, some say grandma showers are just an over-the-top extravagance designed to fetch gifts. "True socializing is being replaced by personal showers are intended to be for friends who are actually having babies," according to Miss Manners.

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We asked some of our Facebook fans if they feel grandma showers are a sweet ideas or just plain ridiculous.

"It's not necessary. Taking care of our Grandchildren is a Party," said Jane Thompson. Our reader Shawn Legg LeSavvas said a congratulations card should be enough for a grandparent-to-be.

But reader Pam Johnson said it might be appropriate in case the grandparent is on a fixed income, but any party should be kept small. "Other than that, I think this is the mom's turn. Not time for Grandma to steal the thunder," Johnson said.

You tell us. Are grandma showers sweet or selfish? Let us know your thoughts in the comments section below.

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by on Apr. 8, 2014 at 7:02 PM
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by Member on Apr. 8, 2014 at 7:04 PM
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That's ridiculous
by Michelle on Apr. 8, 2014 at 7:20 PM
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Unnecessary. Not something I would ever go to.

by on Apr. 8, 2014 at 7:28 PM
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Totally selfish! So stupid. I would not attend.
by on Apr. 8, 2014 at 7:32 PM
I mistakenly went to one once. When I got there, I was very uncomfortable. The grandma was just collecting presents for her daughter who lives over a hundred miles away and was going to drive them over the following week. I guess most of the women there knew the daughter (she wasn't there) but I had never met here. It was awkward (for me) and I'll never go to another "grandma" shower
by Member on Apr. 8, 2014 at 7:34 PM
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I think it's ridiculous all around, but only selfish is he grandma is one of those crazy nut jobs who thinks the baby is theirs lol. Why can't the grandmas just get with some close friends of their own and have a box of wine and some dinner and just TALK about being a grandma???
by on Apr. 8, 2014 at 7:34 PM

MIL already thinks I'm having "her" baby ... No need to give her any more crazy ideas. The good thing about MY pack n play, MY bouncer and MY swing is they are all small (much like a baby) and portable (also, much like a baby)

by on Apr. 8, 2014 at 7:47 PM

I have never heard of these, but the only way I would find them appropriate is if the Grandma is the primary caregiver or going to be the main daycare provider and was on a fixed income.

by Member on Apr. 8, 2014 at 7:50 PM
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 I think if the grandma will have the kids alot then sure maybe..but only if the Mom to be is ok with it...

by on Apr. 8, 2014 at 7:51 PM
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I could see a grandmother party with cake and food and such to just celebrate that she is a grandmother now, but other than that nope

by on Apr. 8, 2014 at 7:51 PM

Quoting goddess99:

Unnecessary. Not something I would ever go to.

I wouldnt go either.

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