I have myself in a bit of a sticky situation.....over the last several months I have become very close with a girlfriend of mine, we are what I would call best friends even, well we have daughters, just a little over a year apart in age, they too have become close. They always were friends, but even closer now that my friend and I are spending more time together, so do our girls. Well, here recently, my friend's daughter has been down right rude to my daughter. She speaks rudely to her, she argues, picks at her, almost bullies her even. And at times will just ignore my DD completely, like she isn't even in the room....then maybe the next day, just fine and dandy, hugging on my DD, telling her she loves her, etc. I understand young girls and hormones, the daily ups and downs....but my DD is sensitive, and really takes this treatment personally and it hurts her. She wants to stand up for herself to her friend, however, I am afraid it is gong to cause major ripples in both relationships. My friend's daughter is very much like my friend, so the apple doesn't fall far from the tree...she may not even agree if I bring up this issue to her, and I really do not want to make a big deal out of this, is this is a real problem, or are they girls just being girls??? I want my daughter to stand up for herself and have a backbone, within reason, and doing it as kind as possible, am I giving her the wrong message by telling her to just let her behavior go, just ignore it, it will pass, etc ?? Our girls are on a dance team together so we all see each other at least 3 times a week, it is important that we all get along.
Any advice, tips, help?? Anyone been in a similar situation?