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Do You See a Male or Female OB/GYN?

Male OB/GYN Charged With Snapping Nude Pics Triggers Our Worst Fears

by Jenny Erikson

OBGYNI know many, many women who choose to see female gynecologists exclusively. Heck, I used to be one! Until just a few months ago, I never thought I'd voluntarily see a man doctor for my girly bits, but then one came highly recommended, and I gotta say -- it wasn't really any more unpleasant than the female docs I'd previously been to. His bedside manner was great, and I think I'll keep him as my regular.

I may have made a different decision if I'd heard about this story before I booked my appointment. A gynecologist in Arkansas is being charged with video voyeurism for "allegedly [using] his cell phone to take nude photos of patients during office exams."

Aghhh! Is that every woman's worst nightmare at the gyno's or what?

The investigation started last month, after a woman complained that Dr. Paul Becton Jr. "produced his cellular telephone and took photographs of her pubic region and buttocks" while she was on the table.

After obtaining a search warrant for the 68-year-old, whose website touts over 30 years of medical practice, police found "numerous images of nude females that appear to have been taken in a medical office during medical examinations." They were found as deleted images on the hard drive of his cellphone.

The woman who made the complaint identified five of the nude photos as ones "that were taken without her knowledge or consent." Becton has been charged with five felony voyeurism counts.

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Talk about an extreme violation! It's already unnerving enough to let someone, even a trained professional someone, all up in our business like that. But we're supposed to have faith that they do this all the time and take no particular special interest in our own special flowers.

This is especially creepy because he's a man! Now, I'm an equal opportunist, and know that there are questionable women out there too. But I've heard many people reason that they only want to see female OB-GYNs because they don't understand why a man would want to go into the field in the first place.

I always believed it was an appreciation for our gender as a whole, and a desire to keep us as healthy as possible. Besides, what greater job could there be than one where you get to help bring new life into the world on a regular basis?

But if this guy is taking pictures? Why?? Is the fetish a recent development, or has he always been looking at his patients a little funny? Is this why he got into the field in the first place? Sick, sick, sick!

I still believe the vast majority (like, hopefully, all the rest) of male gynecologists don't get their jollies by staring at lady parts all day. But stories like this are bound to give us a girls a pause when we decide whether or not we want our special places tended to by a man or a woman.

Do you see a male or female OB/GYN?

Does this story change your opinion on seeing a male gynecologist?

by on Apr. 25, 2014 at 6:57 PM
Replies (41-50):
nova.mommy
by on Apr. 28, 2014 at 9:58 AM

Usually male.  The office has several doctors and I normally go to the same one.  But sometimes when he is unexpectedly out I may have a nurse practioner if just a basic exam.  No matter if the doctor or nuse practioner is male or female, there is always a third person in the room, either DH or a female nurse.  I have never had any issues.  I have gone to the same office for 15+ years.

mommaslilmen
by Member on Apr. 28, 2014 at 10:04 AM
who knows maybe she's got a birth mark, or pierced bits down there- I do so I could easily tell mine apart from others

Quoting L202M:

"The woman who made the complaint identified five of the nude photos as ones "that were taken without her knowledge or consent." 

How did she know they were of herself? I know  I wouldn't be able to pick myself out of a lineup. (lol)

mommaslilmen
by Member on Apr. 28, 2014 at 10:06 AM
As for the question, female midwives only. Just more comfortable talking to a woman with the same parts
steeljello
by on Apr. 28, 2014 at 10:08 AM

The same woman doctor for quite a few years, used to go to man doctor, but prefer to stay w/ her unless she retires, lol

MichelleNichole
by on Apr. 28, 2014 at 10:30 AM
Both have been men for me. The majority in my area are men. I love my gyno though. Very sweet man. I never have felt awkward, or had a weird vibe with him.
ladybugchar
by on Apr. 28, 2014 at 10:37 AM
I have only seen males. But on every pelvic exam there is always a female nurse in there with us. If it is just a baby check, just the doc will come, but if any clothes had to be removed, the nurse enters at the same time as him and leaves at the same time as well.
Mrs.Kubalabuku
by Bronze Member on Apr. 28, 2014 at 10:43 AM

The patients are NOT to blame.

But, if my OB ever pulled out a CELLPHONE during a visit, I would get right up and walk out.  At no point am I ever left opened up on the table while he does ANYTHING but his exam.  He won't even check his pager without draping the sheet back over me.  I can't see how this was able to happen for so long.

Also, Male OBs tend to have a nurse with them at all times during actual exams.  Why weren't the nurses noticing the cellphone?

Personally, I love my male OB.  He's handled all my pregnancies.  He LOVES his job.  It isn't about loving women, it's about loving human life.  He was clearly emotionally upset when we lost a baby at 14 weeks.  I can tell when he's recently delivered a baby because he's practically floating about the room.  When my 2 living children were born, my OB was emotional and elated at the births, and he's delivered probably over a thousand babies by now.  He cares about every aspect of my pain, discomforts, and baby's well being.

I wouldn't rule someone out based on gender alone.  However, a woman needs to stay vigilant.  While it is NOT the patient's fault, ever, it doesn't hurt to know how things should be done and to stand up for your rights.  It is vital to trust your instincts.  If you go in, and he comes without an escort or does anything questionable, you be like the patient who reported this man and stop it from happening.

And, in all honesty, gender alone won't protect you.  There was a female OB out here who was recently fired for some questionable behaviors of her own.  Not just men are perverts.  I think some women are lured into a false sense of security simply by choosing a female doctor over a male.

In the end, it isn't the gender that matters.  It is the doctor/patient relationship.  Not every doctor will click with every person to walk into their office.  You need to find a doctor YOU feel OK with.  There is no shame in switching if you don't like your doctor.  If you suspect anything might be wrong or illegal about how a doctor has conducted the visit, report it.

Jinxed8
by Silver Member on Apr. 28, 2014 at 11:36 AM

always female OBGYN

baileymarie723
by Member on Apr. 28, 2014 at 3:35 PM
I don't have an actual OB/GYN. My primary doctor does my pap, and I haven't had any other reason to go to one. I have a male primary doctor, but anytime he has a female patient that he needs to do a pap on or any other exam where he has to look at their vagina a female nurse has to be in the room, so there is no chance of anything happening like in this article. When I was pregnant with my daughter almost 12 years ago my primary doctor did OB stuff, so that is who I went through. If I were to get pregnant again (which I hope to one day) I would have to get an OB/GYN since my doctor no longer does OB. I would probably get a female if I could.
thatgirl70
by Bronze Member on Apr. 28, 2014 at 3:42 PM

I have a female ob-gyn, it's just my preference. My regular doctor though is a man.

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