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Do You Think There is a Double Standard When it Comes to Punishment?

Posted by on May. 5, 2014 at 2:31 PM
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43-Year-Old Who Sexually Assaulted Best Friend's Child Only Gets Probation

by Jenny Erikson

Karen Lee CarstensOne woman probably thought her best friend was the bestest after she became severly ill and had to be hospitalized. Karen Carstens, 43, stepped in and offered to help care for her 13-year-old son in her absense, but instead she did the unspeakable to him.

Over the course of two years beginning 2007, Carstens sexually abused the young teen, starting with genital touching, and escalating to vaginal, oral, and anal sex. She was sentenced on Wednesday to just five years of probation.

Only five years of probation for stealing a kid's innocence? What the heck? Can you imagine a grown man getting away so easily with raping a 13-year-old girl? Is it because she likely used psychological coercion as opposed to brute force? Is a woman raping a boy really that different than a man raping a girl?

According to court documents, the abuse started in 2007, when Carstens performed oral sex on him four times. In 2009, when the boy's mom was hospitalized again, they reportedly had sex on a couch, and the boy cried afterward because he was afraid he'd impregnated her.

Side note: Also probably because the psychological damage and emotional distress she was causing him.

About a month after that incident, the woman coerced him into sex again, but terrified of getting her pregnant, he asked her to do anal instead. Warning -- the following text from court documents contains graphic information:

The boy "stated that he asked [Carstens] if he 'could have sex up the ass because he didn't have a condom,'" the court documents say. "Complainant stated [Carstens] refused at first citing that it would cause her pain but agreed to the request. [The boy] stated that he inserted his penis inside [her] rectum and that he 'ejaculated' inside the anus."

When Carstens moved halfway across the country later that year, she warned the teen not to tell anyone because she'd "get in trouble." Apparently not much though. Five years probation. SMH.

The is one punishment for her crime which she won't be able to escape -- publicity. Any time someone googles her, this will come up. People will recognize her and be wary of her. The stigma of sexually assaulting a 13-year-old will never go away. I almost feel bad for her, but then I think of her victim.

The unidentified boy is now 19, and was present during the trial. He told a local new station, "I feel like she deserved everything that she got." Hopefully he has some closure and knows that nothing that happened to him was his fault.

Adults are supposed to protect and care for kids, not force them to carry out their own sick sexual fantasies.

Do you think there is a double standard when it comes to punishment between male and female sexual offenders?

Do you think she got what she deserved or was the punishment too light?

by on May. 5, 2014 at 2:31 PM
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by on May. 5, 2014 at 7:54 PM

She got off so lightly....angry

by Member on May. 5, 2014 at 11:35 PM
I think there is a double standard. I think the world thinks that only men could that.They should have threw the book at her.She should have served prison time.
by on May. 6, 2014 at 4:26 AM
That is horrible. Yes, there is a double standard. But sex crimes in general are treated far to lightly.
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