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She Taped a Newborns Mouth Shut!

Posted by on May. 14, 2014 at 10:30 AM
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Nurse Tapes Newborn's Mouth Shut Because He Was 'Too Noisy'

by Lisa Fogarty 

Baby nurses and other medical professionals who work with newborns are supposed to be absolute experts on how to care for our little ones. When we give birth in a hospital, some of us -- especially those of us who were nervous first-time mommies (I'm guilty) -- look to these pros for advice and comfort. So what would you say if you found out your newborn had spent the first day or two of his life in the nursery with scotch tape over his mouth? And no, not because docs have discovered some breakthrough health benefit of bonding a child's lips with tape -- but because your poor baby had the nerve to...get ready for it...cry.

A couple from the Phillipines is LIVID because this exact, unbelievable situation happened to them after their son was born. A nurse at the hospital basically put a plastic tape muzzle on the child because, in her words, he was "too noisy." When mom asked her to remove it, the nurse reportedly told her she could take it off herself. She did -- but also accidentally ripped part of her baby's delicate lip skin, as well.

Seriously?!

If your immediate thought is, oh well, that wouldn't happen in my hospital, I hope you're right, of course. But how sure can we be that our babies are getting the care they deserve when they're out of our sight for hours at a time?

Before giving birth to my son a few weeks ago, I discovered that my hiospital's policy on babies staying in the nursery was...well, a little odd. They basically discouraged any use of the nursery and urged moms to "room in" with their babies so that we could more readily bond with them (and I'm guessing this was also their not-so-subtle way of reminding us we should breastfeed).

At first, I was outraged -- outraged! I wanted to sleep at night and thought it was my right to do so after having experienced the pains of labor and delivery. But I wasn't about to rock the cradle, so to speak, so I shut my mouth and kept my baby by my side the entire time.

And rooming in proved SO much better than leaving him in the care of others overnight. There wasn't one second where I worried about him or wondered if a nurse was leaving him to cry or picking him up to provide him with comfort. As soon as he felt a hunger pang, I was there for him. I got to know his cries and the sounds he made while fast asleep.

I'm not naturally a distrustful person, but when you hear horror stories from other parents, a part of you thinks, why take that risk? At the end of the day, we care about our children more than any outsider ever will. There are a great many amazing nurses and medical professionals who treat your baby like one of their own, but the thought of there being even one who wouldn't treat him well makes me a super-strong advocate for rooming in with baby.

Did you room in with your baby or trust the medical professionals at your hospital's nursery?

by on May. 14, 2014 at 10:30 AM
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BDBVAMP
by Member on May. 14, 2014 at 10:50 AM
All my babies roomed in the nursery and were brought to me when they were hungry.
WahmSahm
by Member on May. 14, 2014 at 11:23 AM
As much as possible the baby stayed with me and my mother was there to care for him or her while I slept. There were a couple times though when one was in NICU or when I was unconscious or having a rough surgical recovery and the baby stayed for an hour or two in the nursery so Mama and I could rest. (My mother was my champion, but she often wore herself out during those days.)
When able to breast feed (two babies were unable due to a feeding disorder) the nurses brought baby in after I'd rested a bit. Thankfully we had spectacular nurses with all of our little ones. Don't know what I'd have done if I'd have learned someone had treated them like nuisances in the nursery! :(
waytomanykids10
by Member on May. 14, 2014 at 1:13 PM
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I'm thinking the writer of this article shouldn't have had kids. What kind of mother is *outraged* to keep their baby with them? There was no way I was not going to keep mine with me at all times.
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Jinxed8
by Silver Member on May. 14, 2014 at 4:48 PM

I had my baby with me the whole time, in the hospital where I gave birth, they have abolished the nursery. unless your baby in is the NICU, he or she is with you at ALL times they call it co-habitation.  There is no such thing as a nursery anymore.  At some point I hadn't slept in over 48 hours and DD wouldn't fall asleep anywhere but on me and the minute I put her in the "bin" thingy she would start wailing. it was the middle of the night ...  One very nice nurse took her for a stroll so that I could sleep for an hour because she knew I hadn't slept in so long.

rockchickmom
by Member on May. 15, 2014 at 7:23 AM

there was no way in hell I was letting my baby stay in the nursery with anyone. He was going to be with me at all times no matter what. Despite having nightmares about him being kidnapped from the nursery, I wanted my son with me. He was my first and my last. I wanted to hold him feed him watch him sleep and touch his hands and nose... I wanted him to feel skin on skin contact and bond every moment I could. Sleep...who the hell wants sleep when you have this beautiful amazing little baby... I can't believe you didn't want your baby in the room with you and preferred sleep to being with your child. I'm shocked..Parents have a choice, unless the baby is sick and needs 24 hr care. But 99% of parents in my hospital wanted their babies with them at all times. . I had a c section with complications Its too risky for me to have anymore... I was taken to high dependancy (away from my son) first night, but a nurse snuck him up within thirty mins of me getting upstairs. We had to be transported to a city hospital with a specialist and they needed two ambulances to get us to the medical plane and i freaked out I didn't know if he was okay...we flew together with me holding his hand all the way. (I don't like flying much) and we had to be seperated again in ambulances to get to the city hospital. I was a mess by the time we got there. I held him so close and cried. I hated every second I had to spend away from my son. We were in hospital 11days all up...he stayed with me in the city hospital as my partner did until we went home when he was 9 days old. I barely left him since, and he's ten months old. 4hrs is the most I've been away from in one go. Anyway...I went off track a little lol. I had my son in hospital room with me. I loved it. It was amazing.
I would have taken the tape off, that would be illegal in Australia babies are supposed to cry. 

athorne
by Member on May. 15, 2014 at 9:54 AM

My hospital pretty much did away with a nursery. They would have your newborn 'room in' with you reguardless of whether or not you breast or formula fed your baby. The nurses would take your baby out long enough to do all of thier mandatory tests and would bring them right back to you unless they were in the NICU. A nurse might offer to take your baby if they felt they really needed to for your sake if you needed to get some rest and the docotor suggested it i'm sure. Other than that, your baby never left your side. My mom stayed with  me when i had my daughter and she helped me watch her so I could get some rest. I thought it was a great  idea. It was very convieient as well for any visiters that might stop by.

johnny4ever
by Mrs. Depp on May. 15, 2014 at 10:09 AM


Quoting BDBVAMP: All my babies roomed in the nursery and were brought to me when they were hungry.

Mine also.

MistressMinerva
by Jennifer on May. 15, 2014 at 10:36 AM

My baby was in the nursery.

Chaesmom2
by on May. 15, 2014 at 10:45 AM

I hope she was fired oh my goodness that's awful

CorbinsMumma
by Member on May. 15, 2014 at 10:51 AM
*her right to sleep after labor* lol Enjoy the newborn

Quoting waytomanykids10: I'm thinking the writer of this article shouldn't have had kids. What kind of mother is *outraged* to keep their baby with them? There was no way I was not going to keep mine with me at all times.
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