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She Taped a Newborns Mouth Shut!

Nurse Tapes Newborn's Mouth Shut Because He Was 'Too Noisy'

by Lisa Fogarty 

Baby nurses and other medical professionals who work with newborns are supposed to be absolute experts on how to care for our little ones. When we give birth in a hospital, some of us -- especially those of us who were nervous first-time mommies (I'm guilty) -- look to these pros for advice and comfort. So what would you say if you found out your newborn had spent the first day or two of his life in the nursery with scotch tape over his mouth? And no, not because docs have discovered some breakthrough health benefit of bonding a child's lips with tape -- but because your poor baby had the nerve to...get ready for it...cry.

A couple from the Phillipines is LIVID because this exact, unbelievable situation happened to them after their son was born. A nurse at the hospital basically put a plastic tape muzzle on the child because, in her words, he was "too noisy." When mom asked her to remove it, the nurse reportedly told her she could take it off herself. She did -- but also accidentally ripped part of her baby's delicate lip skin, as well.

Seriously?!

If your immediate thought is, oh well, that wouldn't happen in my hospital, I hope you're right, of course. But how sure can we be that our babies are getting the care they deserve when they're out of our sight for hours at a time?

Before giving birth to my son a few weeks ago, I discovered that my hiospital's policy on babies staying in the nursery was...well, a little odd. They basically discouraged any use of the nursery and urged moms to "room in" with their babies so that we could more readily bond with them (and I'm guessing this was also their not-so-subtle way of reminding us we should breastfeed).

At first, I was outraged -- outraged! I wanted to sleep at night and thought it was my right to do so after having experienced the pains of labor and delivery. But I wasn't about to rock the cradle, so to speak, so I shut my mouth and kept my baby by my side the entire time.

And rooming in proved SO much better than leaving him in the care of others overnight. There wasn't one second where I worried about him or wondered if a nurse was leaving him to cry or picking him up to provide him with comfort. As soon as he felt a hunger pang, I was there for him. I got to know his cries and the sounds he made while fast asleep.

I'm not naturally a distrustful person, but when you hear horror stories from other parents, a part of you thinks, why take that risk? At the end of the day, we care about our children more than any outsider ever will. There are a great many amazing nurses and medical professionals who treat your baby like one of their own, but the thought of there being even one who wouldn't treat him well makes me a super-strong advocate for rooming in with baby.

Did you room in with your baby or trust the medical professionals at your hospital's nursery?

by on May. 14, 2014 at 10:30 AM
Replies (21-29):
heldcaptiveby2
by Member on May. 18, 2014 at 8:10 AM
I was unable to room with my children due to medical complications.
booaura
by Member on May. 18, 2014 at 8:14 AM
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Who is 'outraged' at having their child in their room with them? WTH?

Both babies roomed in with me.
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Reetz609
by on May. 19, 2014 at 3:07 AM

I was wanting to room in, and I sorta did, but the nurses were kind enough to take care of the baby while I got some rest. I trusted them, they were very kind and they allowed me to check up on him if needed and the baby was right by there side sleeping in his see through crib. when he was hungry they would bring him in and wake me up.

Momniscient
by Member on May. 19, 2014 at 3:11 AM
Mine roomed in but I really have to laugh at the need to suggest we should distrust everything at a hospital because of an incident in the Phillipines.
Hairlady77
by on May. 19, 2014 at 1:24 PM
That is terrible. After waiting so long to have a baby I did not wang anyone taking him away. They slept in the room with me. I felt a strong sense of responsibility and didn't want anyone else in charge of my little man. Even though it may be nice to have rest at that point I couldn't do it.
Cruz-s-mommy
by Member on May. 19, 2014 at 1:50 PM

With my first, I let the nursery take care of him and just bring him when he needed to be fed. I didn't know I had a choice to keep him in the room with me, naive because it is my baby, but I basically did everything I was told in the hospital.

With my second, I had in my birth plan that we would room in and if for any reason he had to be removed from our room my husband and/or myself (if I was able) would go with him. It was a much better experience than with my first.

I will always room in with any future babies (if they are born in hospitals;-)

Cruz-s-mommy
by Member on May. 19, 2014 at 1:53 PM

 My thoughts exactly! It is your baby, how could you be 'outraged!?'

Quoting booaura: Who is 'outraged' at having their child in their room with them? WTH? Both babies roomed in with me.

 

booaura
by Member on May. 19, 2014 at 3:14 PM
Yup. It'll be a rude awakening once baby comes home, and there is no nursery to send the baby to.

Quoting Cruz-s-mommy:

 My thoughts exactly! It is your baby, how could you be 'outraged!?'


Quoting booaura: Who is 'outraged' at having their child in their room with them? WTH? Both babies roomed in with me.

 

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DylsMom12
by on May. 19, 2014 at 4:25 PM

YES I SURE DID...I WANTED MY SON RIGHT THERE WITH US. THE ONLY TIME HE WAS AWAY WAS WHEN HE WENT TO GET HIS SHOTS AND GOT CIRCUMCISED..HIS FATHER WAS RIGHT THERE AND THEN ON THAT MONDAY HIS DAD WENT TO WORK AND I GOT MY BUTT UP AND WALKED DOWN THERE FOR ANOTHER TEST.  THERE WERE A LOT OF BABIES IN THEIR OVERNIGHT AND SOME OF THE NURSES COMPLAINED ABOUT ONE BABY WHO CRYED ALL THE TIME..HIS MOTHER WAS IN HER ROOM..EVEN MY SO SAID HE WOULD CRY AND CRY...I WONDER WHY.

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