No you are not a bad mom. And its not cruel. Its not gonna hurt him one bit
about a year and a half ago i would have thought u were an asshole. (sorrryyy!!!) lol but at that time that's how old my youngest was, and i was going through the same. exact. thing. Plus she wouldn't sleep through the night only because she was just so used to waking up to nurse. So my husband finally talked me into letting her cry it out for a lil bit.. if she got too crazy or went on too long he would go in there and try to soothe her, and we just kept doing that until POOF! She fell asleep on her own. Once she started falling asleep on her own, she would never wake up in the middle of the night. She'd sleep 12 hours straight til morning, then she even started nursing less and less during the day until around 18 months we stopped altogether. Now at 2 1/2 yrs old, putting her to bed is so damn easy. We give hugs, kisses, and cuddles for a couple mins, say goodnight, lay her down in bed and she's out all by herself within 5 minutes. My only regret is that i didn't do this with my first daughter, who is now 4, and who i still have to lay down with til she falls asleep, and STILL wakes up every single night to come cuddle with me.
nope, you're breaking bad habits ... the crying will last one day, tomorrow he may cry a few minutes, by day 3 it's done for. I know it's hard but it's for the best. you're not a bad mom
Don't put yourself down and say your a bad mom. We've all done things that hurt when raising our children.
I was told to let my daughter cry it out when she was a infant. i couldn't do it. It doesn't make me bad mother.
We are mothers!! We all have to deal with our children and if this is what needs to work for your child to sleep. Then this is what it has to take.
Just think this is the beginning.
You're a great mom for realizing that it must be done. Children need to self soothe, they need to be able to sleep without mom on occasion. My son was over 2 before I finally let him cry it out at night...I did not make the same mistake with my daughter! He'll be fine & so will you!
I've actually always been pro CIO and in my experience, it just doesn't last long.
All of my kids are GREAT and completely independent sleepers.
I know the anti-CIO crowd believes differently, but I just don't buy into the idea that kids under the age of about 4 will have memories of being left to cry when they should be sleeping.
No you are not a bad mother. Stop listening to the social media masses and start listening to your heart.
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