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Anorexic son? He's only 11...

Posted by on May. 25, 2014 at 10:03 AM
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I have noticed my son refusing to eat and saying he isn't hungry over the past several months. I feel forcing anyone to eat when not hungry will destroy the natural chemistry of the body hence all the overweight people/kids in America. Well I recently took him to the doctor because it was getting to be fairly constant and he is tiny for his age. He always has been so are all my kids but he unlike others stopped growing! I was in shock when the doctor weighed him and said last year he was 80lbs.( I saw for myself at home and he was that weight) and now he is a mere 64lbs!!! She acted like no biggie and took his blood work and after a week said nothing was wrong with his blood so bring him back in 6 weeks to see if he's gained weight. She offered a pill to make him hungry but I said wait for blood work. When it came back clear I called to get the pill and she said no wait 6 weeks and come back. Well in 6 weeks he could be in even worse shape!! I'm trying my best to encourage him to eat and I'm just confused why she seems to think it's no big deal am I wrong to be concerned?!

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mommy_2_be_2010
by Member on May. 25, 2014 at 10:05 AM
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Momofmenagerie
by Bronze Member on May. 25, 2014 at 10:27 AM
You are not wrong to be concerned.
However, you are in a precarious play.

Can you see a nutritionist as your next step? We tend to cause food issues in children with " eat, eat, eat then as adults, we're told " don't eat, don 't eat" such an odd part of our culture.

That quite a bit of weight to lose and I'd really suggest a peds nutritionist. How's his height? Still gaining inches?
Beautiful_Mess
by New Member on May. 25, 2014 at 10:33 AM


Quoting Momofmenagerie: You are not wrong to be concerned. However, you are in a precarious play. Can you see a nutritionist as your next step? We tend to cause food issues in children with " eat, eat, eat then as adults, we're told " don't eat, don 't eat" such an odd part of our culture. That quite a bit of weight to lose and I'd really suggest a peds nutritionist. How's his height? Still gaining inches?

He is th shortest in his 5th grade class and all classes combined... (all 5th grade) His younger siser is the same height and his little brother is catching up quickly.  

Momofmenagerie
by Bronze Member on May. 25, 2014 at 11:04 AM
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Mmmm, I'd get a second opinion from another pediatrician in a different practice. If he isn't growing, in weight or height , I'd get a second opinion and a referral to a specialist. ... Like an endocrinologist.I would totally be concerned ... And concerned that my pedi wasn't concerned.

I have a friend who's son ( # 3 of her 5) is dealing with this. I tell you nothing scary, just .... Delve deeper, mom. You feel the pedi is wrong or you would not have come asking questions.

Good luck.
idlehands
by on May. 26, 2014 at 1:21 AM
I couldn't tell you whether this anorexia, some other form of disordered eating (possibly ednos, or selective eating disorder), or another health problem, since I'm not health professional. But it's certainly not normal for an 11 year old to drop 20 lbs.

My eating disorder started at 8. It became anorexia at 15, but before than I had ednos, with bulimic tendecies. So sadly, 11 isn't too young to be worried about the possibility of an eating disorder.

Id try a different doctor and see their opinion.
PinkButterfly66
by New Member on May. 26, 2014 at 3:37 AM

I would get him a good multivitamin and insist that he take it.  I'd also get some colloidal minerals and insist that he take it too.  Put it in juice.  Morningstar is a good brand that is fairly tasteless.   The minerals and vitamins may perk up his appetite.   Anorexics often are deficient in zinc and being deficient in zinc supresses the appetite.  The liquid zinc assay test will quickly determine if he is deficient.  It will taste like water to those deficient in zinc and matallic to those who aren't.

http://www.amazon.com/Liquid-Assay-Premier-Research-Labs/dp/B007SOV1YA/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1401089544&sr=8-1&keywords=liquid+zinc+assay

This multi would be good.

http://www.amazon.com/Natures-Plus-Adults-Multi-Vitamin-Chewable/dp/B00014D2SM/ref=pd_sbs_hpc_5?ie=UTF8&refRID=0DPZRVP4M10W0CW9NTFM 

orngblsm
by Member on May. 26, 2014 at 10:12 AM

I would see another doctor.  Something is not right.  I don't think he is consciously starving himself, unless you have noticed he is obsessing about body image.  But it doesn't sound like that.  Maybe he needs to see a specialist or maybe there is something going on in his life that is causing him to lose his appetite.  Either way, you need another opinion.

The problem is what he is doing becomes a vicious cycle.  By now, he is so used to not eating, he really isn't hungry.  His body no longer feels hunger.  My third son used to do this, and his doctor was no help either.  What I did was set small, balanced, regular meals in front of him and told him he had to eat anyway.  I explained that the body is like a car.  It needs energy (fuel) to function.  The difference with the human body is when fuel is not put in, it starts "feeding" off of itself, pulling needed nutrients out of muscle and bone.  It is already happening to your son; it is probably why he has stopped growing.   My son is fine now, but it took a while for him to feel hunger.  

Hang in there and keep at it until you have your answers.   

  

christina122952
by on May. 26, 2014 at 3:14 PM
I would see another doctor and get another opinion.
clairewait
by Member on May. 27, 2014 at 8:54 AM

I feel like if he isn't showing any other warning signs of an eating disorder that it could be a chemical problem as easily as it could be an emotional thing.

I mean - think about clinical depression... TOTALLY chemical and for many, not fully solvable until you get your body chemistry balanced again.

Anyway - I agree with others about seeking other opinions. I'd also start tapping into your son in some different ways to see if you can get him to talk about anything he's maybe not telling you. (That part is probably going to be the hardest but you know, just keep trying and be creative.) Good luck!

Pecuellar
by on May. 27, 2014 at 6:00 PM

 I have heard some kids stop growing if they suffer a trauma. emotional or physical.  Has anything tragic happened to him? 

Does he say he is not hungry or does he offer other reasons for not wanting to eat, like he is busy.  My kids would choose vidio games over eating dinner if it were an option.

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