So my step daughter (4years old) has had a hard time adjusting. I met her when she was 2 years old and when i came into the picture the dad and mom had just got divorced a couple months prior. The arrangements were to be the daughter was with the dad in the day time and mom at night. It then turned into us always having her besides about 3 times a week. The mother got a job and we put it in writing that we would have her monday through friday and she would have her weekends. Then shortly after she started flaking and it would be every other weekend. It has been that way for a while and everytime my stepdaughter would come home she would kind of shut down and just be mad. I know she must feel so hurt because she loves her mom and misses her so i understand. I always did everything i could to console her as would her dad and eventually she would snap out of it. Shortly after we received full custody of my stepdaughhter and a couple weeks ago we had her mother watch her for a week because we had to drive my aunt to south carolina. I feel like everything has changed and im not sure what advice to give my husband, he keeps asking me for advice i have just never been in this siutuation and dont know what to say. It feels different because when my stepdaughter came home she was so withdrawn and sad. She wasnt talking much and her mom said she threw the biggest fit when she knew she was coming home. Its also different because now her mom wants to have her full time. That was never the case. So now he doesnt know if he should just allow it or continue to have his daughter full time.